I am 30 yrs old. My ex-boyf broke up with me a few months ago. The break up was very hard for me. He broke up due to long-distance. I was very hurt about the break up as I really loved him and still do now. He has always called me back after the break up and we even met a couple of times. But he doesn't want to let go. About a month ago, he called me and said he needs to see me. This was shortly after I told him that I am going travelling for a couple of months. He says he is too scared to loose me but he is not ready to come back to me. I was quite upset to see him leaving so I told him we must go separate ways and have no contact. He was upset but he said he has to accept it. But he called me last week saying he can't forget me and he thinks of me. But he then said he can't be with me now as I am going away to travel. He wants to meet when I come back from my travels. What should I do? I love him and he says he does too but I am so confused. I want to be with him but he says not now.
2007-12-09 08:09:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he is confused about what he wants but thats not your problem he needs to first figure out does he want to be with you or not. He can't keep playing with your emotions. tell him he needs to think about what he wants and if he stills wants to be with you after you return then you will think about it.
2007-12-09 08:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by bdf s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, first of all you go travelling. You really need this break to think clearly. They guy is behaving a bit like a spoilt child not sure of what he really wants or frightened of being alone. You are like a comfort blanket for him. Travelling is a great way of opening up your mind as you will have lots of different things to see out of your normal day routine. Different sounds, smells etc. This will then help you relax and maybe give you a complete different perspective on what you want in life and where the people around you fit in or no longer fit in. Go travelling, meet new friends, go for 6 months around africa with other like minded travellers. Have a look at Truck Africa for instance. Life is short and so much to see and do out there, dont get bogged down because of someones indecisiveness, you are the one that matters after all. Its your life, you take control of it and decide what is best for you!
2007-12-09 08:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by UKBiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love lasts forever.
Go off on your travels have the fun and experiences that you want.
Don't consider him in the things you do,
IF and as you can see its a big IF, he is there when you return and YOU still feel the attraction then tell him its now or never.
Why is there a distance problem, love knows no bounds. If its right it will flourish whatever the distance.
Go enjoy, be single, you might like it.
He is thinking of him, now you go think for you.
Be safe while travelling and enjoy every min of it
2007-12-09 08:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by stumpydon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a frank and honest talk with him about this relationship, what you both want out of it, where you wish that it could go, and what each of you are willing to sacrifice to make it happen. It just seems that you guys are two people going in opposite directs. You two need to be honest and realistic about what you can and can not give to each other. Either let the relationship go or be together - this back and forth stuff isn't working.
2007-12-09 08:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the whole thing some space. Go traveling and have a great time. It sounds like he's leaving his options open, which is exactly what you should do too. You might miss something wonderful if you wait around for him any longer.
2007-12-09 08:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ajay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he is confused; or maybe he just doesnt know on what to do. does he think about you a lot too, well he must, but the truth is that he might just be to afraid to go out with you again and have another serious heartbreak, the real question is what do you want to do? he could be going through a trial where he is really upset about something that happened while you two werent dating. you should tell him that whenever he is ready to go out with you to let you kno.
2007-12-09 08:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by holy moses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is playing games with your emotions..he doesnt want the committment of a relationship yet he calls u when he feels lonely?? DONT accept anymore of his calls and dont meet with him when he gets lonely.. you need a guy in your life who is stable and wants to commit to a relationship becuz it seems like thats what u want.
It may be hard not to talk to him anymore but in time u WILL get over him...I KNOW believe me!
2007-12-09 08:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by yoyo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes worth the wait if u love him, or is he just simple messing u about???
what does ur heart say?
is he really ever gonna be with you or stringing you along? u need to sit down with him and make him tell u where u stand, u could be waiting years for all u know
2007-12-09 08:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Saz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not now?
As they say " It's now, or never ".
Don't be a booty call.
You deserve better then a part time lover.
2007-12-09 08:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of you and focus on yourself. get some counseling and complete the things you want to do.
2007-12-09 08:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋