We argue and he grabs his belongings and leaves our home.He doesn't call and then he returns the next day.He left last night and I haven't even heard from him.Is he cheating?
2007-12-09 07:27:23 · 19 answers · asked by sweet_az_peaches1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The beginning of my marriage was like this only I was the one who would run away. You guys need to sit down and talk soon. He most likely isn't cheating..
It will talk a lot of work if you want to save your marriage. But it can be done. If all else fails try marriage counseling.
2007-12-09 07:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~Nyckee~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and find out why he does that. Perhaps he has a tendency to get really aggressive and instead of hurting you, he'd rather leave.
Wait till he's in a good mood, and sit him down and talk, because that way you'll be able to see what's going on. Be honest with him and tell him exactly how you feel, and what it does to you when he leaves.
My cousin also used to do that, and once she left for 3 days without any contact. Their marriage is different since then! It's great now, but that's because they sat down and sorted out all their differences, and are both sticking to their side of the bargain!
I also leave at times, but not for longer than an hour, and when I get back he's friendly again.
Perhaps you should call his bluff, ad when an argument gets heated, pack your things and leave. Let him feel how it feels. When you get back sit him down and discuss it then. Then he'll know what it feels like!
Good luck =)
2007-12-09 15:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he previously ever been in a long term relationship? If not, than his behavior is completely normal. 1st year of marriage is the toughest. Especially if this is the first time you lived together, When you were dating and got in a fight, it was probably an easier out to just walk away, but now you two are married, he can't just up and leave. I did that our first year of marriage, so we went to counseling and have been married 5 years now! (happily)
2007-12-09 15:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is immature. This is not way for him to treat his wife. I would not say that he is cheating. Are there signs that he is? I would talk to him when you calm down and tell him that when things go wrong you need to talk about it not run out on you. If he does not want to talk then he can talk later but he should not pack and leave. If I were in your shoes and I told him this, the next time he left would be the last.
2007-12-09 16:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just not know how to deal with the situation. Your marrige is brand new so you guys have to learn how to grow together. It will be hard but if that's what you two really want than it will be worth it. Just remember to be humble in your every action and don't be afraid of change. Whenever you two are not in a mild or calm state of mind, no one will listen to the other. The last thing you want to do is accuse him of cheating. Think about it, with no hard evidence what's the use???????
2007-12-09 15:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by That Boy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the hardest year of marriage is the one you're in. Marriage is tough, really. It does not sound as though either of you were ready for marriage. Him leaving does not mean he is cheating. It means he has had enough of something. You'll both need to find someway to communicate (not yelling, etc.) in order to keep it going.
2007-12-09 15:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is looking for a reason to stay out at night... I would give him an ultimatum... either he stays and works it out right then or don't come back.... whether he is cheating or not, that is not the way to keep a relationship going.. and you deserve better than that nonsense
2007-12-09 15:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by chica42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to ask him. Though this is no marriage. You both would really benefit from marriage counseling...Marriage should be a 2 way street, lots of communication...Not walking in and out whenever you feel like it....
2007-12-09 15:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
most likely he's always been this way you may not have paid attention - you now know what type of man you married "when it gets tough, he will run" this is how it will be from here on out and he will continue to do this simply because you have allowed for him to get away with this - i sound hard on you and don't mean to, just keepin' it honest. he may not have been ready for marriage - good luck to you
2007-12-09 15:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by lynnette 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
was this a quick marriage? sounds like it. actually never mind - that isn't a marriage at all. remember it just gets worse as time goes on.
2007-12-09 15:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by flynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋