I act totally different around different people and i'm usually really shy. People can probably tell that i'm insecure and i want to be able to define myself and be that person butI'm afraid of what people will think, especially because i'm mostly known as the quiet one. Please help me, I don't care what you have to say every little thing could help!
2007-12-09 06:59:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I understand what your going through, Dont act like a careless ***** or anything cause it will make it worse. but the more you dont care what other think the better, i know its hard. It may have to take some time. Overall its what you think about yourself, you know why. Cause if you know your great to be around and have a lot to offer, its the other people lost if they dont want to know you. they missed out on a great friend and the happiest time of thier life. Dont worry so much. I know its easier said then done. but its really the key. When you worry, you get obsessive about it and it ruins your thinking and before you know it, you have a phobia about these type of stuff. Hope you get better and believe in yourself and be more out going and its easier to be that if your near a person with the same intrest as you. Some people go to seminars or take college classes, maybe classes to take as lessons. The most popular is Dance lessons, stuff like that or an art class. You will be fine.
2007-12-09 07:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by Delightful 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what its like to be considered the quiet one. You don't necessarily have to define yourself by the way other people think of you because you act differently in different situations when your around family, friends, or people that are unfamiliar. I think you should care about yourself first and not worry so much about what people think. Sometimes it's hard to be outgoing so just take one step at a time and build some good relationships with people that are caring of others and themselves. Good luck.
2007-12-09 20:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by --- orange --- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sounds familiar......personally I think finding out who we are is a journey that everybody has to take time over, and you will just know yourself and what you want out of life when you do something (I think!).
My sister is 34 and she only just realised that she wants to work with children in Primary School (A Teacher), so I guess theres no quick way to go about it!
Don't worry that people that of you as the quiet one, if you try to get noticed and don't know what you want then people will think you are fake. Just make sure you choose your friends well, you sound like a likable person.
I am the same with people I have known my whole life and then people at work sort of thing......act different. But I don't really worry too much about what others think of me, specially as I don't know what to think of myself yet. Just follow your Conscious, and just drift down the river till you see where you want to get off! (kinda).
If you want ot figure yourself out, it depends if you are more spiritual or sciencey, e.g Horoscope, ennegram tests, personality types ect. Might help you consider directions.
Sorry I wasn't much help.
2007-12-09 15:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by q&a99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The less you worry about what people think the more natural you can act. Just be yourself and don't worry so much. And there is nothing wrong to be a more quiet person.
2007-12-09 15:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by nudle_2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problemis that you are worrying too much about what they think of you. Instead, focus on them and take a real interest in finding out about other people. Not only will you forget about their opinons of you, but they will like you because you are interested in them. .
2007-12-09 15:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you cant always think about how people might feel around you. you have to be yourself just like you would around your family. The more opening your personality is the more people will like you because of it.
2007-12-09 19:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your defination will change over time as will peoples interpretation. many people are shy under various circumstances. it's okay to be a lot of things and to try a lot of things.
2007-12-09 16:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit worrying about what other people think, because they are most likely worrying what others think of them. (or they have their own problems on their mind)
Be yourself, follow your own interests and have fun in life.
2007-12-09 15:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Buzz B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a varying personality you want others to accept you and to be accepted by others you would have to be different for other people and i think if you wanted you could control it
2007-12-09 17:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by JBB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't worry about it and just be you.
2007-12-09 15:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by nckmcgwn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋