how to make her clean?

Question

my daughter doesnt clean her room when i tell her is that normal and how do i make her clean it?

Answer 1

Completely. I was there once. Go through and pick up all her items laying about, bag them up, and tell her if that is how it must get clean then so be it. She will figure it out soon enough.

Answer 2

This sounds like more of a parent question than a cleaning issue...although it applies to both. Are you more concerned about her not cooperating with you or the cleanliness of the room? Maybe both, I'm sure both aspects of the problem can be tricky.

A gentle reminder is that you want to weigh the issue and see where it stands against your relationship with your daughter...that is, how much it gets between you two. Of course you want her to learn responsibility, and part of her respect for you is doing what you ask. But her cleaning habits reflect a lot less on you than you think, and they don't indicate that your daughter will turn out to be a sloppy irresponsible adult either. Your relationship is more important than either of you getting her way, and more important than the room itself.

You could start with a makeover of the space that the two of you work on together, starting with a good declutter, a deep cleaning (where you teach her how to use products and machines, how to clean efficiently), and clearing the room temporarily. Then start the transformation.

For 20 dollars, you can get some paint on the wall and make it a whole new space. Let her pick, it's just paint. Then you can ask her about how the room works for her, how it falls short of her needs. See if you can help her get it arranged in a cool and functional layout. Then start looking for systems that help her take care of her things more easily so she is more likely to keep it nice.

Once the room is in tip top shape with your help, work on a schedule that suits her needs. If she is not a morning person, or has to make an early bus, making the bed will be harder...it will help if she has one big cozy comforter with a duvet that she can just spread up to the top. You can ask for a certain standard to be met every day, or do pop quiz inspections with a reward if things look good. You can also help her set up a routine where she can do a little every day to keep from getting bigger messes.

Set expectations and reward her progress, not with over the top bribery, but small items that may help her enjoy her room even more. A cute waste basket, a scented candle, a piece of inexpensive wall art, a cozy throw blanket. These sprinkled in with many more thank you's and wow's when she has a clean room, as well as spending time with her in the space doing fun things when it is clean.

It may seem a little like spoiling to reward a child for the things you expect of them but it is a lot more effective than power struggling for authority, or punishing for wrongs. And you will get more respect from your daughter, including obeying your requests, if she knows you are trying to meet her halfway on it.

Answer 3

You didn't state the age of your daughter, which would help to give you a more age appropriate response, but in general I'd say if you just tell her to clean her room, she probably doesn't even know what you expect from her. Be more specific in what exactly you want her to do and break it down into managable tasks. If you've always cleaned for her, maybe just spend some time to guide her through what needs to be done by cleaning the room WITH her.
If she's old enough to be able to read you might want to print out the student control journal for her from the link I've included. Once she uses this you won't have to feel like you're constantly on her case and she will feel more independent. You might want to put the print out in a nice folder for her and gift it to her with her own personal timer.

http://www.flylady.net/pages/control_journals.asp

Good luck!

Answer 4

With my daughter I used to put a trash bag, a laundry basket, (for dirty clothes) Clean linen for the bed, the sweeper and furniture polish with cleaning clothes, then tell her to get in there and don't come out until the room is clean. Today she is the kind of housekeeper that House Beautiful could take pictures of

Answer 5

Normal, Think we all have been through this stage sometime in our lives . My mother got so fed up telling me that one day she through everything out my bedroom window , apart from the furniture . What a shock I had when coming back from school with a friend , to find all my clean clothes and dirty ones all in the road for all to see. It took me a long time to put every thing back again , but never again did I have a messy room . But I don´t suggest you do that . What you could try is this . Write a note and leave it in her room. Just put clean your room please , love mum xxxx. I did this with my kids of course she will ask ( what´s with the note)? No need to say anything . You must give direct answers if you want your children to do things , no need to explain anything to them , they now it needs to be cleaned .

Answer 6

I love the previous ideas of making a list and actually showing her what to do.

Let her know in advance.Say a day or two that on Sunday she will clean her room to your specifications and no TV, music, telephone, computer or books until she finishes.
After that , get her in the habit of doing smaller cleaning chore every day to keep the room clean.

Answer 7

After doing battle with my own daughter and getting no results, I decided to try something different with my granddaughter. I realized that to say "clean your room" had no meaning for her. She had no idea what that meant. One day I made a detailed list of what needed to be done. A very detailed list. Example: 1. Pick up all dirty clothes and put in hamper. 2. Throw all candy wrappers in wastebasket. 3. Pick up books and put in Bookcase. 4.Take sheets and blankets off of bed and take to laundry room. 5.Take all dirty dishes to kitchen. 6. Put shoes in closet. There was more to the list, but you get the idea. When each item was done she could cross it off the list. She seemed to like that idea. I guess it gave her a sense of acomplishment. She was given a reward for getting everything done on the list. Even some adults work better with lists.

Answer 8

I raised 2 daughters who hated to clean their rooms. I tried everything, nothing worked. One day I emptied all drawers,
closet, etc and told them when it got cleaned then they
could have their friends over. From then on I had no problem.
If I mentioned dumping everything on the floor again, they
would get busy. They didn't want to clean a bigger mess than
they already had.

Answer 9

Teach her how you want her to clean be specific. For instance take ot the garbage by filling garbage bags. Pick up and wash her clothes. Vacume, dust, and organise.

Answer 10

take away privledges till she does make her even eat in there!