Honestly, I am sick! I tried to turn my husband on this morning, left for a minute to brush my teeth, came back & he kept acting like he was not interested. So I left, took a shower & when I opened the door, he was on my laptop. I looked at the history & saw that he had been looking at porn while I was in the shower! After finding out, I chastised him & said so did you finish jacking off? He smiled & chuckled. I was pissed. Now he is mad at me because I am mad. Hello! Who wouldn't be mad? Anyway, I'm just sick of it. He keeps doing this. Are all men like this?? The thing is, I'm not ugly or overweight. Sometimes, I think this will lead to an eventual divorce. I'm sick of being left out. I have needs too, & he sure as heck isn't filling any of them!
2007-12-09 06:34:35 · 16 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not against porn. We have watched it together, but somehow now he watches it by himself. Oh, & yes, I have done the whole slut routine to get him off & that doesn't seem to be doing the trick anymore!
2007-12-09 06:50:17 · update #1
Yes, I've tried acting out his fantasies...high heels, skirt, no undies, you get the picture & then he lasts a whole good 2 minutes! Great!
2007-12-09 06:51:54 · update #2
Seem the Fancy is getting better than the real thing to some>
Some thing happened since the beginning>Sorry it happens>
2007-12-09 06:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 07:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like he definitely has a problem with porn ! i mean come on if he would rather watch it than be with a real women that's a problem. no all men are not like this . you need to sit him down and have a very serious talk with him, and maybe make a password on the computer so he can't go looking at porn anymore if you aren't getting any neither should he !
2007-12-09 06:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like this but it happens that you married one who is. You can try counseling but it sounds as if he married you for the sake of being married and for no other reason. if he isn't willing to go to ounseling with you, just get a divorce and get somone better. You can also go into your browser settings and raise them to a point where he can not get porn on the computer. Good luck to you!!
2007-12-09 06:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you married and selfish and immature man. He 's probably not going to change anytime soon, so you'll either have to a) learn to tolerate it or b) prepare to find someone better.
I highly recommend you get into some form of daily meditation/mantra chanting for your soul and then check out a local group meditation or two in your area. You need to be around men with more depth, they seem to be a heaven of a lot more selfless to women!
2007-12-09 07:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am man. I look at porn too. I have a wife and she gets pissed off too. The biggest turn on in porn is that the women in it really want it. I mean they REALLY WANT IT.. when you make love do you ACT like you enjoy it? Do you have fun with it? Or is it just lay there like a dead fish and wait till he's done then roll over go to sleep? In your question you sound obviosly perturbed. Is your general thoughts about sex and your husband always like this? Do you onconsciously hate having sex with him because your mind is elswhere or your mad at him or your thinking he was just looking at porn so he is not thinking of me.
Are you sabotaging your own relationship? Is it the porn that makes you mad? or that you don't feel adequate for him?
2007-12-09 06:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by cotton3860 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
The easiest fix to this problem should be handled this way, If you took care of your needs right in front of him where he could see but not allow him to touch you or participate, it would sure start up a flame inside of him. and it would make him feel bad for not taking care of your needs. I had a friend in this situation, she went home put in a porno got out her toys and went to town with him standing there watching, it sure changed their sex life for the better.
2007-12-09 06:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by john d 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I bet he would be very very very thrilled if you said you would like to watch one with him. He would see a new exciting you that's interested in something that interests him.
Women like make up, fashion, shopping etc. Men like porn.
HE may be learning from it, techniques etc. Women should not immediately jump to conclusions that porn is bad. At least they are on a screen and not really in the room.
Compromise.
2007-12-09 06:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
no not all men my bf wont look at porn i try to make him but some men have fantasies of what they like and maybe look at it with him or ask"honey what turns you on" im sure when you fulfill those fantasies he might stop but most men do watch porn its just likemost women cook
2007-12-09 06:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's terrible. After the divorce would you like to come over? You have a nice avatar. (LOL) You two will make up soon enough and make a decent and romantic holiday out of this. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-09 06:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋