i'm one of only 2 females in the office, and i get really turned on by one of the men working there. he's married, but i find myself having sexual thoughts about him. my mojo really gets working lol.
2007-12-09 06:27:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
haley k you dodo bird. i haven't rated anyone. but i guess you wouldn't know that since you're not sitting here at my computer.
2007-12-09 06:39:32 · update #1
Let's get rid of the word "BAD" in terms of attraction, OK? You are human, and we are definitely sexual beings! That is healthy. However, you seem to be struggling, I think, with perhaps wanting to carry out your fantasies, right? Maybe you have even received encouragement from the guy? Bottom line: do you want to be involved in any way with a man who is "tied" to someone else, who would betray that person, who is probably lying to that person, and who may in fact just be using you for his own gratification? I would ask myself this: if I have such intense sexual attraction and fantasies about this guy who is "taken," do I feel I don't deserve a relationship of my own? Also, I would urge you to go out and be social with folks not at your work, you know? Go meet single guys! Get laid! Practice safe sex, of course!! haha...
Hey, good luck. That's tough. But embrace your sexuality- that is a positive thing- go get yourself a good massaging vibrator, girl! LOL. Just don't let it get out of control at work and end up doing something that is really pointless and unhealthy for you, for him and for his wife...
HUGS!
~Shiva~
2007-12-09 06:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~Shiva~ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's normal to be curious about how other people would be in bed, but what matters is that you know that he is off limits since he is married & that you don't act on any of this curiosity. Even if he were to encourage this activity, don't nibble on that bait, as that would only lead to tears & one of the two of you (or both) losing your job. Sadly, they'd probably assume that you, the shameless single hussy, led the married man astray (even if he was the initiator) & office gossip would abound even if you stayed.
You also have to consider this: would you be able to sleep with yourself at the end of the night knowing that you helped break up a marraige? Keep your curiousity (and hands) to yourself.
2007-12-09 06:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you already understand your answer. you're risking your marriage, your pastime, sexual harrassment costs ,and your self nicely worth. overlook approximately her and tell her to end yet be careful the style you attitude her, and don't overlook she has already gotten somebody else in hassle. If i've got been you i might tell your boss how she's performing, and under no circumstances be together with her the place there are no longer any cameras. in case you adore and admire your spouse you will additionally tell your spouse so she isn't shocked if something comes out like a rumor.
2016-10-10 22:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily bad having sexual thoughts about a co-worker. Just make sure you don't try and share those thoughts with them, or act on them.
Sex with a co-worker can cost either one or both of you your jobs, sex with a married co-worker could wreck careers and families alike.
Cool down and keep busy with work.
2007-12-09 06:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad. You cannot help your feelings. However, don't let it go any further. There are plenty of single guys out that can get you going as well. And they will be able to give you a family and a life-long committment. Getting mixed up with a married man is not worth it.
2007-12-09 06:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being turned on by someone, married or not. Now if you acted on those feelings being that he's married that's when you cross the line. Keep the thoughts in your head and you'll be alright.
2007-12-09 06:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by JONES 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep your pants on. Married men only look good to you because they are taken. There are a million men out there that are available. Besides, you never want to get involved, especially sexually with someone at work.
Don't be a home wrecker.
2007-12-10 11:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens to me as well,
at work, grocery store,,,, every where I go I see very attractive women and my mind starts to wander into some very exciting thoughts. Fantasy is normal, acting them out is different.
Im 39, and the older I get makes me appreciate women more so the more attractive they become.
2007-12-09 06:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't act on it then it's fine. Go find some single guy to act out your fantasies w/.
2007-12-09 06:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I get turned on where everywhere I go. There are so many beautiful women everywhere. Don't be a clam.
2007-12-09 06:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by rhtzzn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋