should I be the same or should I continue to be nice towards them and hopefully at some point they will stop being rude or unfriendly?
2007-12-09 04:52:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You win more flies with honey.
2007-12-09 04:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by JZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone is like that to me, then everyday i go in and i plant a huge smile on my face and always make a point of saying morning etc....It will do 2 of 3 things,
1: it will make u look the better person...
and either:-
2: make them smile and friendlier to u
or
3: annoy them bad, but because u r being so nice and friendly there is nothing they can do...
I've used number 3 on several occasions and well i find it really funny as they do it to try and get a reaction out of u and it blows their mind out when ur smiling and friendly........It has worked for me and i've ended up with a couple of new friends as i've won them round or i just get a laugh a day when i see their reaction to me shouting morning to them.......lol
Good Luck honey
2007-12-10 01:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is rude to you or unfriendly just behave normally and don't let them feel that their attitude is bothering you. Just be alert and response or criticize them on the spot when the be rude to you especially if you are not alone in a way that all the others will notice her unjustified rudeness. You have to work it out cleverly don't let anyone treat you bad we are living in a jungle these days.
2007-12-09 05:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't do that sweeping it under the rug lets them know its fine to be rude to you or bully you.. You stand up and say next time there rude. I find what you say to be very rude. I dont' like where this is going so cut it out. If they continue they have no respect for you. and You quit hanging around them.
If this is a person in a family you have to deal with and see in the future Still let her know your not interested in how she speaks to you and you'll just be saying hi and goodbye to keep the peace in the family.
And be a snob back to her if she's not giving you the time of day who is she to think she's better than you.
2007-12-09 14:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I always do is this: If they approach you, ALWAYS be kind back, even if they act like a jerk. If people are around, they'll see this, and the other person will just look stupid. As for whether to approach them, that's up to you. If they don't seem like a complete idiot, you could try calmly asking them if you've done anything in the past to offend them, or if there's some other circumstance that caused their behavior towards you. If they just seem completely unreasonable, and you don't like them at all, just don't bother with them, but ALWAYS be nice in return!
2007-12-09 04:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being nice, if that is your desire. But don't expect anyone to change because of how you behave. Loving unconditionally is always the best approach. Maybe they will see your love and start to soften; maybe their problems are so deep that they are miserable, depressed or whatever.
Doesn't mean you have to become something you aren't to fit into their world. Just be who you are, and don't focus and put all of your energy in those who are incapable of loving or being nice at this time. Things may change or not, but you will be better off not going down to anyone's level.
I don't know the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, and that is to try to please everybody.
2007-12-09 04:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice does not finish last. Be the better person; by always being nice you will have a better life. They are probably trying to deal with a problem that does not have anything to do with you. Everyone can use a smile and a friend.
2007-12-09 04:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not rude or unfriendly. That will reflect badly on YOU. What you should do is keep your contact short and simple and move off when the chance comes. Also look uncommitted.
2007-12-11 17:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Adrian X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have come across this so many times. I usually step back and try to figure out what makes that person tick.
I actually saved someones job, by giving this advice. she couldn't figure out why this woman was being haughty with her, and I asked some questions, and it turned out that the woman wanted to feel like she mattered. So my friend, went back and instead of telling the woman stuff, asked her thoughts on stuff. what a change came over her. she became very friendly.
so try to figure out what is going on with that person. keep being civil, don't kill them just yet :)
2007-12-09 04:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this person isn't of importance in your life let them be and go on with your life. If this person is of importance to you (I.E. a mother in law or baby momma) then I'd act nice and try to understand their position. Just because they don't respect you doesn't mean you shouldn't respect them. Honestly, I'd try to avoid these people as much as I can and in the rare occasion you to see them it wont be so taunting trying to be nice.
2007-12-09 04:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... ive had that situation before... ask the person wats up with their attitude towards u... they mite have a problem at home or sumwhere else, and theyre taking it out on u... if not, well then, they werent really meant to b ur friend, now were they? they should treat u how they wanna b treated
2007-12-09 04:57:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋