im now to the extent that i believe im disfigured deformed malfomred some how
2007-12-09 02:10:36 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
a person is not only made of colour,skin,flesh or bones it has most precious assets also called Nature,Mind and Motives and Heart.
You are best in world if you are superb in last Fours
2007-12-09 02:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by rajan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is only skin deep and ugly goes to the bone. There are very few people on this planet that are so beautiful that EVERYONE thinks they are. Beauty is subjective and is highly influenced by culture. Back in the 1920's it was considered beautiful if you were fat. These days our culture has brainwashed us to think it is beautiful to be sickly skinny, pale and gaunt (although that is changing).
I have had girlfriends that I thought were beautiful and some of my friends didn't think so. We all have our own thoughts about what is attractive to us.
As we get older, hopefully we mature enough to realize that beauty is really about who we are as a person. 99.9% of who we are is NOT our body. We are much more than that. If you are lucky enough to be born with an attractive body, all that means is that many people will be attracted to you because of your looks....and believe me, looks don't last forever.
I have met very attractive women who I wouldn't give the time of day to because they are mean and self centered. I have also met average looking women who I thought were very beautiful because of the way they were inside.
Don't worry so much about what others think of your looks. You can't change what you are given (other than being in good shape and healthy), but you can be the best person you are able to be....that is what people will be attracted to... and that will give your life more meaning than looking pretty for 20 years or so.
2007-12-09 02:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by tlldob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at that tender age when other's opinions are important to you. Opinions can be, mean, cruel, false, almost true, and true. Everyone who gives you an opinion will be either mean, or cruel, or false, or almost true, or true. It is entirely unreasonable to believe that just because it is someone else's opinion, that it is automatically true. No, their opinion is either mean, or cruel, or false, or almost true, or true.
For what it is worth, open your eyes the next time you are in the grocery store. Mostly all of us are, by the world's stupid standards, ugly. How many of us could be movie stars? The average person is what they are, somewhere in the ugly range. Doesn't bother me one bit. In fact when you look around you may see yourself in the better half. But the spirit of a person is what counts. Looks only last through the introduction. I'm sure your looks are fine. Even beautiful people think they are ugly. It is true.
2007-12-09 02:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never judge yourself by what others think. What someone might consider ugly - a man who is short, bald, with a big nose and raspy voice may be considered ugly by some but to others he is simply Jimmy Durante, a man to be admired for those who remember him. some consider Angelina Jolie attractive but I personally don't, so ugliness, or beauty, is in the eye of the beholder and should not be limited to what you see but should also include who or what a person is. I will give you a link to a good site to check out, especially the part dealing with self esteem. some people may not see the beauty within you but don't worry about them and instead make friends with those who do see it. Good Luck to you!
2007-12-09 02:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody makes judgements on people within the first 45 seconds. A lot of people have a pre-determined comparative base which forms soon after birth and they pick their friends and partners based on this.
However if your features and characteristics do not fit into this then to the people who say you are ugly are saying what is actually programmed in them to think. Well not the word ugly, but the reaction to not like you. However give pier pressure and societies desire to impress upon everyone cosmetic size 9 models, this amplifies peoples perceptions of others. Thus resulting in stronger negative emotions.
that or they are just being cruel.
the people who tell you that you are not ugly are actually people you can trust as they have your best intentions and have that pre-programmed like-o-metre and actually like you.
Well...that sounds what I learned from my colleague who is a has a Psychology phd.
Hope this helps
2007-12-09 02:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. some people feel that they will make them selves better by putting down others. Some people are just jealous, others just look at the outside of people and not what they have to offer on the inside. to each their own!
You believe in yourself always! who cares what others say? If you are still in High school after you graduate you will never again see most of the people you graduated with anyway, unless you return for your class reunions. Life is too short to worry yourself over things that do not matter. stand up for your self and believe in your self!
2007-12-09 02:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by THing4CSA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What? I have no way of knowing how serious you are or not. I hope you are high or drunk, but if not… Love yourself, and give out what you want in return. I don’t know what you are doing to get yourself in such a lame predicament, but don’t let it be your fault. People immediately reflect what you are giving them regardless of your looks. Looks can break the ice, but the day after is a whole different game. Good luck… Take care… Merry Christmas!!!
2007-12-09 02:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by wbp123_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just believe yourself only. I hate people who comment so much personal, without looking at themselves. Even if they are beautiful, that does not give them license to comment like this. Such people are really sick. They are not to be believed or even able to be paid any attention. We in India do believe, 'SATYAM SHIVAM SUNDRAM'. meaning Truth is God and God is beautiful. Whatever God has given you, must be adored. As God is always right. We do not know what is in store for us and others. So do not pay any atttention to such arrogant and non-sense people who pretend themselves to be god... JUST excel yourself in other fields of life and show others the way of life... Just think that you are a good human and that is all...
2007-12-09 02:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. People who call you ugly are being mean...you should avoid them.
It is hard for humans to avoid judging on that "first impression", so present yourself at your best, especially when a bazillion people can see (ie, your 360).
2007-12-09 02:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by TNguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like beauty is on the inside.
Some of the most "beautiful" people have a tendency to be cruel and filled with hate. Anyone who remarks on a person's outer appearance in a negative way is only seeking to draw attention to their own shortcomings.
Wear a smile that is always "beautiful"
♥fa
2007-12-09 02:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't believe those who call you ugly. There is some beauty in everyone and everything. You need to stop listening to those who are negative.
2007-12-09 02:36:34 · answer #11 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋