i know i shouldnt feel strange around her but i do i dont like to think of her like that any advide on how to get over this sill reation to my friends sexuality
ps- i am 17 and she is 16
2007-12-08 23:44:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just support her and be there for her. Nothing between you two has changed, you just learned about something in her life that she didn't want to keep from you. She trusts you a lot to tell you that.
2007-12-08 23:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
You'll probably get over it.
Just don't think of it as something weird or different. Think of it as if it was just someone told you 'I prefer red hair on guys' or something. Ultimately it doesn't change anything between you.
Just make sure you keep aware of her feelings, because it probably took courage to tell you that. But you know, you obviously have feelings about it too, so if you are uncomfortable for a while, it'd probably be safe to talk to her about it, keeping her feelings in mind at the same time.
2007-12-09 00:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by sindajes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's the same person. Nothinghas changed apart from your perception of the truth.
And she does not necessarily fancy you, just like you don't necessarily want to jump into bed with every male you see (assuming you're both female)
2007-12-09 07:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Raffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to think of her like anything? She is gay, and there is nothing she, or you can do about it. If she had the courage to come out, then be proud of her for that, and accept her and move on. There is nothing different about your friend.
2007-12-09 05:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah you'll be fine, same thing happened to me but we're fine. One thing though, keep up the friendship because he went off with his other gay friends and I was left out in the cold for a long time, we only saw each other when he was free, but we're fine now.
2007-12-08 23:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you felt alright about her before you found out, be a friend and stop judging, could have easily been the other way around, is this the way you would want your friends to treat you...........think about it.
2007-12-09 05:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't having sex with her before, or you wouldn't have described her simply as your "friend". Thus, the people she DOES sleep with are of essentially no consequence. Behave accordingly. I had a friend who came out of the closet, and she told me she was very impressed because of ALL the people she talked to I was the only one with whom her relationship was unchanged! It's strange but true.
2007-12-09 01:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by poorcocoboiboi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well just be a good friend. Don't think of her as a lesbian, just try to carry on as normal. If you really can't cope, then tell her, she will understand and the two of you can work something out. It might be fun.
Good Luck
*Angel*
2007-12-08 23:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by *Angel* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your friend is still the same person maybe it has come as a shock to you but you shouldn't let it affect your friendship your friend can't help being gay any more than you can help being straight
2007-12-11 05:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Quinn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only a problem is you let there be one. She's still the same person even now you know. Just be friends and be there for one and other
2007-12-08 23:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋