What should I do with my life now? I am so lucky that even tho Im mid 40s, I look in my early 30s and am fortunate to be in great health, fit and have economic independence. I worked hard for years and can now take it a bit easier. What is currently giving me emotional suffering is the fact that I would love to be with a guy that Im crazy about and that is crazy about me, maybe even have a child . I've had 2 long relationships but neither guy was right for the future. What usually happens is that much younger guys are attracted to me, say in their twenties and I am often afraid to take the plunge with them as I feel it may only be an experimentation. I have travelled lots and have recently returned home to try to settle again. I am 'in love' with a guy who is much younger but again, i feel there is no hope for the future. I got so stressed out with my career that I backed down to a more junior position. With 'love', some men were real into me, proposed but I didnt feel the sam
2007-12-08 22:56:45 · 10 answers · asked by profe 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, sometimes, the right guy just doesn't come along. I understand that you might feel like your clock is ticking and that you probably want to have children and a nice happy family to settle down. Give this guy a chance, maybe it will work out. If it doesn't, try again. Maybe you should start trying to find someone of you own age, although maybe the choice is really narrowed down when you're looking for a single 40-year old guy. Maybe you could try an on-line dating service or maybe some of your friends has a friend that's just right for you.
You are really lucky to look so young, you're healthy and independent. You should be the most confident woman in the world, go out explore and maybe the one you're looking for is not so far away after all. Good luck with that.
2007-12-08 23:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by love123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love somebody it shouldn't matter that they're younger than you - an obvious answer, but it's true. It sounds like you've worked really hard at acheiving your goals, and you value your relationships, so make sure whoever you end up with values the same, and is willing to be as devoted to a relationship as you. If you see a cute young guy, and he thinks your cute too, then perhaps it's not worth it if your looking for something serious. However, if you really LOVE a eprson younger than you, then go for it. Take the plunge, it might feel good to take some risks and have a bit of adventure. Maybe even if you go travelling, find a world globe and spin it, put your finger on it and see where it lands, go someplace different. If you explore and find some excitement I'm sure you'll meet somebody who enjoys similar things. It sounds like you deserve a bit of fun and excitement anyway! Well done for working so hard, and congrats on all your other things in your life going well, It's good to hear:) Good luck!
2007-12-08 23:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must not give up hope.... think you are afraid of being hurt but unless you try, you will still feel the same. just because you go out with someone, doesn't mean you have to marry them straight away !! take things slow or as fast as you want, if someone loves you they will wait and understand
2007-12-08 23:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by Fool to my self 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres as far as I'de go . statistics have concluded that women out live men ,on average anywhere from 7 to 10 years , .
2007-12-08 23:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
free and single is a great position sometimes maybe you need a challange why not take a year off and work for a charity overseas there are plenty to choose from
2007-12-08 23:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a mid-life crisis thing to me.im in my mid 30's and kinda feel the same way,as im lost in my life.been married,divorced.have 4 kids.but now im in limbo.what you need is some spunk in your life.find some one a little crazy to liven things up.
2007-12-08 23:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by mr. y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age doesn't matter. go with your heart. it might be the best thing that's ever happened to you. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If it doesn't work out, who's to say you won't meet someone else? go for it. You'll regret it if you don't.
2007-12-08 23:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some risks are worthy taking, if your really into this guy thengo for it, life is to short, hope u find happiness and good luck
2007-12-08 23:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by stimpo96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i bet your a secret celeb on here arent you??!!! ha ha!!
2007-12-08 23:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by chris p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask the bible. what can it hurt?
2007-12-08 23:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by gasket300 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋