iam 16 year old female, i live in alabama, with my grandparents and they both emotional abuse me because of stuff my mother did when she was a child, i make really good grades i have a 88 average in school, and i am graduating in december, this month, so i am really good in school. plus i have been working so hard for them i haven't had any time for me to have a social life. they do not let me go anywhere anyway. i help doing everything and i even take care of my grandfather, give him his shot, get my little brother up from shcool and everything. they emotional abuse me calling me names. telling me i am not worth my fathers sperm. it really hurts . my questions are do u know how i can get emancipated in the state of alabama and get custody of my lil brother. my mother is in jail. and please just real answers nothin silly just to get points i can not take it anymore.
2007-12-08 22:52:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know the laws in Ala. but if you were to talk to a lawyer, first consultations are usually free, they may steer you in the right direction. Don't listen to all the stuff that's being said about you. You have to remember that your parents have problems that they can't get a grip on so they are taking it out on you. You know who and what you are so don't let them discourage you. Do what you have to do to protect you and your brother, even if it means going to Child Protectioin Services for help. Nothing is going to change unless you take the first step. Just remember when things get rough, you are doing what's right and are being the adult in this situation. Some people have to be make to realize what's really going on in their lives, so it's up to you to show your parents there needs to be a change. Good luck and hope everything works out for the best.
2007-12-08 23:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww... what a sad situation to be in...I'm very sorry for you. You sound like a very level headed smart girl. But unfortunately, you are only 16 and I don't think any court is going to give you custody of your little brother. Having said this, you need to get out from your Grandparents place. That is just a horrible situation... how dare they do that to you. Is there no other family members that you can go too?? Is there anyone in your family that you can confide in... or perhaps a councelor at school??
2007-12-08 23:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to a guidence councilor at school, they might be able to help you. Getting custody of your brother will be extremly hard as your only 16 and have no way of really supporting him. Your almost of age now why don't you just hang in there for a couple of years finish your schooling and then your life will be your own. I'm sorry i can't give you better advise but, the only thing i can tell you is to remember what has gone on in your life, and don't repeat it when you have your children. Just keep doing a great job in school get your education and ignore the nasty comments that they are saying to you, it's your mom their really mad at, unfortunatly they seem to be looking at you and seeing her. Hang in there kid it won't always be this way. Good luck
2007-12-08 23:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in Alabama i think you would be of legal age for an adult. but emancipated you would have to show proof that you can take care and support yourself and finish school.
you and your brother can be placed in a foster home until you complete the requirements.
i am so sorry that you have to go through that mental and emotional abuse. if you even tell the authorities at school/ a hospital advise nurse and/or the police..... telling them that you are being forced to give your grandfather shots and you don't want that responsibility, as well as it is interfering with your school education, something will/can be done.
2007-12-08 23:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to I am sure first have a job to show you can put a roof over you and your brothers head, food on the table and what not. Good for you graduating this month. Where is the father? You also need to contact a lawyer and talk with them to see what they say as far as what you need to do.....good luck
2007-12-08 23:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first your only 16 i know you don't want to hear that.go to family court and ask that the two of you be placed together.you still need to be around people to help you.how old is your brother?.you can't make them be nice because if the love is not there and they seem to be making problems in stead of helping..ask other members of your family.and if not go to family court and see what they can do for you.sometimes foster care is better and you will get the love you need to grow up healthy and strong.
2007-12-08 23:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your situation is as it is but with alot of inner strangth u to will pull your self out of this bucket of crap smelling like a rose hold ur head up and keep telling your self u will not be like them hold on baby girl better days are coming
Oh and here is a much needed hug (((((bubblez)))))
2007-12-08 23:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by swiepy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only advice you to please go to a teacher or the principal of your school.Plead with them to listen to you and tell them what is going on in your home life.I am very certain that they would be able to help you.So please take care and do the best for you and your lil brother.Dont be scared to speak up.
2007-12-08 23:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by embellishment3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first step should be finding an attorney.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-12-08 23:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what they say, you are worth it. you were born for a reason
2007-12-08 22:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋