To add to my last question yes we have only been married for sorry not 6mo but 8mo and we were best friends for 12 years before we got married. Iam strongly thinking about leaving my husband. I want to leave now but with christmas comming I think it would just be to hard on everyone including my 8yr old son. I just don't know how much more I can handle. Some advice please:-(
2007-12-08 22:35:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay until after the holidays in my opinion.
Unless you or your son's health is at risk.
2007-12-08 22:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Colin M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure without a doubt that leaving your husband is something that has to be done, and noone is being physically, or mentally harmed you should wait until after the holidays. Divorce no matter how much you want it is going to hurt not only you but also your husband and your child.
Have you tried counseling? Does your husband know there are problems? Can you two talk about these problems and maybe solve them together? Do you just need a weekend away by yourself to think things through? Do you know what it will be like raising your child alone? Do you know how hard it will be to support yourself and your son if you get no help from your husband? How will your son feel that you are leaving and breaking up your family?
I am not trying to talk you out of going but you really need to think very hard ask yourself these questions. It took me 6 months to make the decision to leave my husband and we have no children. Seek the advice of someone you trust, a friend, a clergyman, a parent.
Whatever you decide i wish you the best of luck
2007-12-08 23:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Makingitwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your situation is, but I would advise you to stay together until after the holidays. And use this time to make sure that leaving him is exactly what you want. Because that's a decision where, once it's made, it's made. Be sure that whatever the issues are, aren't fixable before running to file for divorce. This is just my opinion. Do what makes you happy, and what you feel is best for your family.
2007-12-08 22:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Raina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your child, dont leave till after X-mas, as this would be very hard on your son, & its not your childs fault that you married the wrong guy, so just woman-up & be strong for your son, why we women keep picking the wrong men is beyond me? Make sure that you dont repeat this mistake, divorce is so, so hard on kids, so once you do get divorced no more men! Focus on raising this child, then if you want to marry go for it! But dont drag your son into another failed marriage.
2007-12-09 00:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dumped a longtime girlfriend right before christmas one time. but i forgot it was christmas, so i felt bad. but the shock of it being around the holidays helped make the decision stick, there was no confusion, and her whole family knows right then and there, b/c it makes a bigger deal.
2007-12-08 23:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by gasket300 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans to leave after the holiday and consider it a Chritmas gift to yourself.
2007-12-08 23:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to go, then get on with it. If you can stay for the holidays, then stay for good. Staying for Christmas won't change things one way or another.
2007-12-08 22:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made up your mind.....What will change between now and then other then you think it will hurt people more being the holidays.....geesh
2007-12-08 22:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow your heart and i hope n pray for you to make the right choice.pray hard n goodluck
2007-12-09 00:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by cutyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it really kill you to give the child one happy Christmas?
2007-12-08 22:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋