I have a partner. He is japanese. He is married but they stop their relationships almost 10years ago, no talk, no sex. But these past few weeks they have communication in personal I think it's because of their son who past away 2weeks ago. I am worried.. What if he's wife demand against us, what will happen to me? Will i win or not? Or she has rights to demand us even no sex almost 10years?
sorry for my english but please try to understand... I am very very paranoid.... We live-in almost 6years and we have son now, he's just 3weeks old. I don't know what to do. I love my partner so much, and it is difficult for me to do separate because we already have a son. Please give me advise. plz. plz
2007-12-08 20:29:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually I understand their feelings coz of their loss.
I didn't worry about his wife before we met coz he told me that they are not devorced but seperated almost 10years(now 16 years) and i don't have to worry. I asked him what if she demand against us. He said that he can divorce her if she did. And she never win because they are seperated and in Japan you can divorce the partner if they have no contact within 6months. That's the japanese law, he said. I don't know about japanese law and i don't know if I have to believe him or not.
Still now he always saying that don't have to worry even they have communication. They talk each other just because of their loss and just supporting her wife beacuse she is unstable now. And it is no problem with me but I really feel jealous and hurt.
I am 25 years old now and he is 58 years old.I know i can find another guy easily but I love him so much! T_T
I really really love him.. I know it is wrong but I love him!He promised he'll marry me
2007-12-09 02:05:02 · update #1
He promised he will marry me after the graduation of her daughter.
2007-12-09 02:06:34 · update #2
I want to stop this relations but I can't....
T_T
2007-12-09 02:07:46 · update #3
I hope am just paranoid.. Am just worrying now because they talking now.
2007-12-09 02:31:26 · update #4
shes his wife and your not you are jsut some girl your the one who he shouldnt be talking to.my husband is from japan to and you can get divorced in japan and if he loved you he would but obviously he doesnt
2007-12-08 20:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by hispregnantwife! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would she demand against you? You need to understand that he is still married, and he just lost a child. You don't take precedence over the loss of a child, no matter what age. Sex seems very important to you (because you mention it not once, but twice, why?) but in the long run sex does not a relationship make. Back off and let him deal with the death of his son, of course he is going to talk to the child's mother about this, they both lost someone. After that talk to him about actually getting a freaking divorce if he loves you so much.
2007-12-08 20:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases, if your partner has been away from first wife for 10 long years, the law says, he is still legally married, but has been away to long to get back with her, anyway he has a legal obligation to you and your new son now. I am sure he loves you, but must feel very sad and sorry to his first wife because of the death of first son, I don't think he will go back to her, just give him some space for now, he is grieving over the loss of his son, this will make him see how very precious his new son is to him......good luck
2007-12-08 20:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your Japanese lawyers . That's what you have to do.
I cannot clearly see what you want from your question but I assume you do not have Japanese Nationality. Japanese family law is complicated particularly when foreign nationals are involved and I believe you have to see lawyers.
I have to admit I'm no law expert but In principle wife has all rights regardless of sexual relationship. I think it is very difficult to claim in court the marriage is broken because they have no sex.
>she never win because they are seperated and in Japan you can divorce the partner
>if they have no contact within 6months. That's the japanese law, he said.
I believe it's NOT true. If the person is officially declared missing then you can apply divorce after certain number of years (not months), but this does not apply to your case.
For your reference in Japan if both husband and wife agree to get divorced, you legally divorce each other by submitting divorce application to the local registrar without court decree. Financial settlement can be discussed out of court. However your partner has to go to lengthy family court hearings if his wife does not agree for this convention. And you have to face huge legal cost.
Basically it is up to your partner. And it's up to you to believe him or not.
2007-12-08 21:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by hanafubuki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just because he isn't talking to his wife doesn't mean that he isn't cheating on her with you. you are sleeping with a married man. feel better?
you don't "win" anything except being a single mother. that's it. have fun with that. you deserve everything.
2007-12-08 20:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has kept you dangling for all those years if he wanted to marry you he would have done something by now,beware of the karma!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-08 21:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋