Married at 18?

Question

I have been together with my bf for 8 months we were talking about marriage after 5 months, & I have been wearing his promise ring for 4 months. We are in love undoubtedly & we couldn’t see each other anywhere but together until we are old and gray. We are both 18 & will turn 19 in 2008 I'm still in high school but when I'm out I want to start planning a BIG wedding. At first I thought it was weird to get married before you can even legally drink but who needs to be wasted on their wedding day? I’m not going to start “planning my family” until I'm at least 25 so kids are way out of the picture. We both have family members who got married in love at 16/17/18 & are still married 20-50 years later. We are in love & no it’s not a fling, it’s not lust, it’s not a crush, it’s not puppy-dog love. it’s LOVE I find myself finding things that id like for my wedding and dreaming about it & him. Is it odd/normal to be IN LOVE this young?Did you get married/someone who got married young & had a successful marriage?

i'm from california.

I have already believe it or not dated a lot of guys I know what I like. My dad died two years ago … it made me grow up fast. I’m the same person I will always be. Just later one I will be a few years younger. I want my mom to live to see my wedding day, especially since my dad never will… I want to tell my grand children one day how we fell in love at first sight, I want to celebrate my 50th anniversary. I want to be married BEFORE I have kids. I want the closest thing to a fairytale I can get, and I'm already half way there by being in love. I just want to make it even better

i ment a few years older

Answer 1

this is adorable and i whole heartedly think that you should go ahead and get married! dont take peoples negativity as the right sign, they are just jelouse because you have found real love at sucha young age. you are very fortunate because you will have more time to spent with this person. why put it off? if your heart is certain than nobody can tell you otherwise!

my dearest and best wishes!

Answer 2

Your parents are most likely mad at your sister because she didn't TELL them she was getting married. The secretive part is what got them upset. On your end, idk your parents or how they will react, all parents are different. However, I would tell them sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the more upset they will be when they do "find out". They will think why didn't you tell us? In the long run your probably better off telling now or sometime soon rather than waiting. As far as being pregnant or married? It depends, if your parents like your sisters husband or not and if they even want them to be together. Also how they feel about your boyfriend and you 2 being together. Traditionally speaking, marriage has always been seen more acceptable than just having a baby. Marriage implies stability, love and long lasting relationship. This is not always the case though. Good Luck

Answer 3

Funny to be asking a bunch of strangers about one of the biggest decisions of your life. At least it shows you are thinking about it. But really, does it matter what anybody else thinks or says? No. You're going to make your own decision, and you're going to live with the outcome. If you are having ANY trouble making it, well, then it might be best to decide to wait before you decide. There's no harm in waiting, is there? You are probably already having sex and if you want to live together after school you can... you just don't want to fall into the trap of "do we get married now?" You could set a time frame, say 3 years. You both decide that in December 2010, you are still in it for the long haul, then marriage it is. Having lost your father just two years ago is also worth looking at as a false impetus to getting married. There's a void that wants to be filled. Best of everything to you.

Answer 4

That's great that you both are so much in love at a young age! There is no need to wait till you are any older to get married. I met my boyfriend when I was 15 and we have been together almost five years, we aren't married yet but we might as well be lol. Don't let anyone tell you that you are to young, what does age have to do with love? As long as you are both adults that's all that matters. Good luck to you and your future husband, start planning it now if you want it to be perfect =)

Answer 5

Sounds like the 2 of you have thought this thing through. I believe you have you head on straight and know what you want.... who are we to tell you that you are too young? Many people marry young and stay happily married the rest of your lives... however, some don't. I would still plan on an education, even if you do get married. Always have something to fall back on.

Answer 6

It is possible to get married that young and be forever, but be sure...I got married when I was 21. I am divorced now, my ex is a good man and a good father, I think we were just to young and didn't experience enough first. I did wait four years before I had children, but I still think there was alot I missed out on. Be sure and good luck to you.

Answer 7

it's not impossible, but the odds are very much against you. wait a fewa years, if you think you two are going to be toghether forever, what difference is it going to make when you get married? That doesn't matter, what matters is being together, so wait until you are both done with school. I know one couple who have been together for 25ish years, since they were in high school, but that's just one of the countess couples i know. all the other young couples I have known have divorced.

Answer 8

I don't think it's a problem, but of course dont let it interfere with school..your parent might not like that. But yah, if it's real go for it..i believe in young love because i look for long term relationships too but just havent found the right person yet. I'm 17, just so you know, your not alone. So yah, go for it. My mom got married at like 19 and yah my parents are still together. well good luck.. =]

Answer 9

I did it at 18. Nobody could stop us. It was a mistake because you are not the person you will be at 30. If you don't play the field now and figure out who you are you'll regret it.
The percent of marriages that make it at your age is teeny.
My X and I (split at 22) are still good friends to this day though. (we live on opposite coasts)

Answer 10

go out and enjoy life first, trust me. I'm in the military and i see so many divorces due to young marriages. Be free for a while and then mature a little and settle down. It'll be fine by then.