What about divorce ! is it easy or hard ?especially when children are involved !?

Answer 1

Divorce is hard, especially when kids are involved.. You don't want your kids feeling low, and them knowing what is going on, i had a divorce, the main important thing for me was, to keep kids life as normal as possible. Very draining, cause men don't have that responsibility.. mums always end up with all the load, it is very stressful.

Answer 2

Never easy. There's some sense of relief because you think a problem is going away. This is just an illusion, though - especially when there are children. To them, the problem of a divorce lingers. The fact that there family is not 'whole' anymore is profoundly disturbing. It's much much easier to work through problems with a commitment to the marriage. People seek to marry again, have similar problems and have to work just as hard. Then they wonder why they didn't just stay in the first marriage and keep that together.
No, divorce is never easy. And if you have a conscience, you can't abandon a family. If you don't have any conscience, then God help anyone you are involved with..

Answer 3

It is hard when children are involved. It hurts them more than you can imagine. Then you have to worry about what kind of people your ex will date and have around the kids and you have to worry about if the people you date will be nice to the kids. That is a hard thing to find. Unless your marriage is really bad consider working it out. With divorce there are just lots of new problems.

Answer 4

Well its never easy that's for sure, and going on personal experience of being a child of divorced parents the children are often the ones that come off worse. Though staying with someone for the sake of the children doesn't necessarily work either.

Answer 5

Unless you're Zsa-Zsa Gabor, Divorce is painful and hard.

The cite below has lots of links and forums. I think you have to join for free in order to post. But you can look around anytime.

One of the best bits of wisdom I found is this- "In a divorce, no one wins." Sure, if your attorney is good at arm-wrestling, you may save some alimony or get some alimony, but both sides will be poorer, both financially and emotionally.

And the kids become political footballs. "She's a lousy mother" and "He's a no-good dad" become policy.

If you're thinking of divorce, get some counseling. If your spouse won't go to counseling (happens sometimes), go by yourself. You've got plenty of emotional turmoil happening, so by not going, you're not helping anything.

And if your spouse won't go, it might be a good time to talk to a family law attorney as well. A divorce splits property. If you think your marriage isn't salvagable, you've got to begin planning on how to survive financially after the dissolution.

While you're waiting to see your counselor and/or attorney, try not to aggravate anything. Whatever has happened between you needs both of you to fix. A lot of problems arise because people don't know how to fight. If it were you and I that had problems, you'd not yell or call me names because we're not family. Yet with those people who are most important to us, it's easier to be rude and angry. So make sure you behave better than your spouse. And if it's your spouse who's yelling and behaving badly, don't let that become the seed for further fights. Try to avoid hostility.

If you're having problems with something, and these problems are making you think of divorce, those problems are very real. You need better help than you can get here. Find some professional help.

First place might be the cite below, but even they aren't as good as a real counselor.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Honestly, what do you think?
As a child, you are not going to have the two most important people of your life with you as you used to know it.
You're going to have to see only one at a time!
You might have to be careful of what you say!
You can't have everything with you when you go to one of their house, which might make you feel more like a guest than being in your house.
Your world turns upside down.
You call him mum and her dad because you just happened to be with one and hasn't got used to switching quickly enough.
You miss them both and sometimes they still argue or there are uncomfortable silences and you don't know which side you should be on!!!
Yeah, it sounds great doesn't it! Exactly what every child dreams of!
If it's any consolation, it's a bit of the same for the adults. Not a party either!!!
The thing you have to watch for, is that your child doesn't feel responsible for your divorce. This does lead to suicidal thoughts!!! So, be extremely careful!

Answer 7

I've never been married or divrced since im 13, but my aunt, 10 years ago, divorced, and when my cousin turned 8, her ex took my cuz in court and we all went though hell getting her back, and now my aunt is having to cut back a lot because of lawyer bills. My cuz was taken to Colorado for about a year, but my aunt finally got her back! But we all would have preferred not to go through that, so divorce is VERY hard when it involves kids!

Answer 8

No, divorce should not be made much less perplexing.... getting married might desire to be made tougher. Marriage is extreme and a extreme dedication. useful, a heck of countless human beings at present get divorced, marriages look to fail all around you. i think that's as a results of the fact many of the folk getting married at present shouldn't additionally be getting married. Their significant mistake is status up there on the alter interior the 1st place. there has been such an ideas-set shift interior the previous years... now it style of feels that in case you will get a competent 7-10 years out of a marriage which you have made a competent determination.... it is not perplexing to get divorced. the only element that makes it perplexing is the animosity between the couple. it is going to be perplexing.... in case you prefer to bop you may desire to pay the band! sturdy success to you in case you're dealing with a demanding stretch yet we don't choose divorce to be any much less perplexing.

Answer 9

its really hard, as the fear I had was what will life be like after. You are so used to the norm, its human nature to fear the unknown. It is hard, unfortunately, I have divorced twice, and I have children. They have however grown up to be fantastic kids, as I worked very hard as I taught them with my love, honesty and integrity. The only advice I would give, is not to re-marry. By all means have a life with new people, explain that to th kids, but personally, my biggest problems with the kids was caused when I re-married, and had to create yet another new norm. Its not worth it!

Answer 10

It is not easy. Difficult decision to make and can be very emotional experience for all concerned. But NEVER stay just for the children's sake as this never works and kids are not stupid. Just make sure you both make the children feel they are loved by you both and that they are not to blame.