My husband and I have been "separated" for almost 2 weeks. We speak because we have a 2 year old son and I work full time and he watches him. He left me for my best friend and wants to "date other people" and "have sex with others", his reason: "I won't know how I feel and you should do the same thing". I told him no way, we are still married and I respect that vow I made. It really hurts that he wants to be with my ex-best friend and date her/sleep with her while we are still married. He says he is only married b/c of technical reasons, but still wears his wedding band (or at least he does when he sees me). What is the right thing to do, this is such a silly question, but I am so confused right now. He lives with his parents right now and wants to bring another woman to their house and be intimate with her....how rude! Please advise.
2007-12-08 18:37:43 · 15 answers · asked by cwilcoxrn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just make sure that he loves and respects your son, since that is the only relationship that he will maintain after all this.
2007-12-08 19:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Box of rain has some good advice. You do not want to go out with another man while you are still legally married especially since you are not emotionally separated from your husband. Getting a new man on the rebound is not a good idea because all you would probably want to talk about is your husband.Plus, if your husband found out you were dating around, he might try for custody of his son.I would just focus on work, your son, your family. Time will pass. Good Luck!
2007-12-08 18:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, what a horrible man! I am finding lots of examples of horrible men these days? Where are we going wrong in society??? I thought I was the pits!
Girl, he did you a favor. It must be painful as hell, but glad you didn't waste anymore time! He is selfish, immature, and has no values!!! He isn't respecting you or himself!!!
9 out of 10 times, men like this will do the same to the new lover in time. You know, a cheater is a cheater!
So sad these men reproduce, someone sterilize such men!
2007-12-08 18:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has followed the easier, softer path of doing what he wants when he wants. You must follow what your heart dictates. Give yourself some time to heal from this painful experience, concentrate on a good life for yourself and your child. When the divorce is final and you have had some time to become settled in your new life you might consider a new partner.
2007-12-08 19:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i am really sorry for what you are going through. thats kind of unbelievable that someone can be so cruel to you. you seem to be handling it very maturely.. much better than he is handling it. stay true to your beliefs and realize that you cant control the decisions he is making. it would be nice if he would stay true to the vow, but he clearly feels differently. so i feel the best thing to do would be to start accepting that these are the choices he's making. you are clearly the better person here. i'm sorry you lost your husband and "best friend" ... how unthinkable are the things they have done to you. hopefully he can realize he needs to set a proper example for your son and handle this in a more civilized manner.
2007-12-08 18:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by iloveredgrapesandchocolate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before God you have grounds to leave. If God thinks that cheating is the worst thing you could do to your mate then unfortunately you should set up some healthy boundaries and file for divorce. Sorry about your little boy. He won't change and you will never trust him again. God be with you though this.
2007-12-08 18:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, in case you adult males are making plans on getting returned at the same time it fairly is okay to hug and kiss, after all you're nonetheless married, in basic terms separated temporarily. notwithstanding you do, do no longer seem for affection someplace else, which will chew you interior the butt later. i'd take the label as such, yet be lenient. you would be separated and get each and each others stuff in line, even nevertheless it fairly is stable to celebration, and seize up. this is common to sense attraction to him bodily, you're married, it is not unlawful to do notwithstanding you choose, yet you are able to think of, "is this going to help or harm us getting extra effective for our relationship?" stable good fortune!
2016-11-14 23:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by mcclam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to your beliefs. I can't believe his parents would allow him to bring another woman in-maybe that is where he got his morals from. I think I would talk with an attorney because I don't think I would ever trust him. Good luck to you.
2007-12-08 19:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be tempted to do wrong just because he did and he has the morals of an alley cat.
I'm surprised his parents would condone his infidelity in their house.
Recommend you read Divorce Busters if you want him back.
Joy to you!
2007-12-08 18:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce.....he wants to play and shop around,he should have DONE it BEFORE you guys got married.I quess his libido is a never-ending-story but make sure he will pay for you kid instead of spending it all on his flirts......make some stricts rules when he is with your child,you dont want him to see daddy intimate with other people
2007-12-08 18:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by ajal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋