ackground story: I have a friend (A) who is pregnant, another friend (B) of mine was mad at A and said all kinds of mean, hateful, and harsh things about A, her husband and unborn baby. Now B is mad at me. Nobody ever told A about the mean things that B said. Now B is throwing a baby shower for A. I wasn't invited to the baby shower (obviously) because the hostess is B and she doesn't want me there. Which is fine, I mean it is her house and all. From the very begining of A's pregnancy I have been looking forward to giving her a very special gift that I made for her and the baby.
The question is: Is it wrong to send a gift to a shower that I'm not invited to?
2007-12-08 18:04:11 · 5 answers · asked by Lily Flower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was actually thinking is would be a pleasant surprise for A to have another friend C (who told me about the shower) bring my gift to the shower.
2007-12-08 18:51:34 · update #1
Update: If I were the hostess I would have put all of my own personal feelings aside and invited whomever wanted to take part in the celebrating of this new little someone. B is not me. Therefore, I didn't go or send the gift...I don't have the guts to do something that would or could cause the B to rage again. I will, however, give my gift to A in a more personal and joyous way.
Thank you to all who expressed their advise.
2007-12-10 04:20:20 · update #2
no
2007-12-08 18:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not send a gift!!!! Your so called friend, known as B. sounds quite mean spirited, and even jealous, plus she is always mad at someone, it seems. I believe that if you sent a gift, the friend, A, would not even get it! Go to her house and present it to her yourself. By all means, give it to her, but do so yourself. You do not need to be at a shower to present a gift. Good luck to you and A. With a friend like B you will both need it.
2007-12-08 18:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by barefootin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no shower, no gift. if you give her a gift shell feel very uncomfortable for not giving you an invitation. and im pretty sure she didn't just forget to invite you.
2007-12-08 18:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, by all means send a gift. you'll feel better in the end
2007-12-08 18:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by **Sista** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not wrong, but it maybe better to just give it to her(a) in person.
2007-12-08 18:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋