how to deal with relationships as a teenager?

Question

Thanks for your time for my question. I’m a 16 year old senior high student. Relationship is making me dizzy. If you could give me some advice, I\ll really be appreciated.
1\parents
It seems like we can hardly understand each other. We both know that remaining silent can’t solve the problem but each time we come down for conversation, it ends up in a quarrel.
2\teachers
My parents think I should be initiative to keep in touch with my teachers cuz they have a lot of students and won’t have time to offer help to me personally.
For example, last week I needed a recommendation letter for the university. I telephoned my parents to ask my maths teacher to write one for me. I didn’t go to the teacher myself because I was not sure where he was at a certain time. The next day after maths class, the teacher looked at me and I was waiting for his answer. But finally he didn’t say anything. It was embarrassing. I didn’t talk about the recommendation thing because I was not sure whether it

was appropriate to say it in the classroom since it was a private thing.
Also last week I asked for a sick leave. The master teacher told my parents that I should keep the hospital’s recipe as a prove. When I got back, he didn’t ask for it so I thought it was not necessary to hand it to him. But my parents said The master teacher thought it was inppropriate to ask me of the recipe as a teacher and my behavior would leave a very bad impression, which made me worried.
3/classmates
Right now we’re all applying for universities so friends,EVEN BOYFRIENDS become rivals. Each time they discuss about future, I can feel the jealousy & hatred hindin behind their eyes.I feel quite uncomfortable but I’m not sure if I’ll miss some very important tips if I hide from their discussion.Especially my boyfriend, I wonder if he’ll betray me for the sake of his own future.

Answer 1

you are a student my dear so you will be the one to remind what you need in your teacher cause forgetfulness sometimes cannot be quited its always there so be friend with your teacher reminds her what you need and ask her if your right. anyway theres no harm in asking questions as long as it cant hurts any feelings

Answer 2

Can't say too much about #1. because you haven't laid out the dynamics between you and your parents. About #2, it is for YOU to make the moves. Your excuse about contacting him are flimsy, you can leave a message in his box or if there is a system internet in the school, leave the teacher an e-mail message. So take the inititive next time. As the saying goes, seize the day. If you get too far out of line, someone will bring it to your attention.

Answer 3

You are old enough to do things your self, your teachers and parents will not be there to do everything for you. In this situation you will have to hand your teacher your doctor's excuse, If you don't you don't get excused, it is not the teacher's problem it is yours. You have to ask your teacher for the rec. letter, Get a letter to get into college isn't a private thing, Just need to do it after class, and not interupt learning time. Meet in the middle ground with your parents.

Answer 4

Hmm... I'm 14 so I know how you feel. My relationship problems always end in failure. I say just work towards another goal, eg: where you want to go in life.
I've learned if you focus on something else that's important in your life, relationships will become better and you will one day find that special person.
I've also learned that it's better off to keep who you secretly admire to yourself. Telling people [I personally think] makes it worse.

But all in all, your still young so just focus on something else in life. Relationships at the moment are very confusing. Hopefully it will eventually sort its self out.

Hope I helped :)