Do you think that in order to love someone you should love yourself first?

Question

In order to love someone, you first have to love yourself?
Explain it to me fully.

Do you think that in order to love someone to the fullest extent, that you should experience self-love first. If not, wouldn't it be a sort of artificial and strong new feeling to have for someone else.
Or do you think that you just feel love for someone when it just magically happens to be perfect for you.

Answer 1

It's hard to appreciate others if you can't appreciate yourself. After all, you are the first person you know.

If you learn to appreciate something, you learn more about them than when you simply hate them or show no interest of any kind in them. For example, let's take a genre of music you hate. To you, all of that music sounds horrible to you, so you don't want anything to do with it. While there could be something in that genre that you like, you just don't care enough to find it.

It's the same with people. If you appreciate yourself, you learn more about yourself. If you simply hate yourself, then you won't care. Then you can't find people like you to take an interest in.

Answer 2

Self love(not narcissism but basic acceptance of our self) is the primary foundation for relationships with others,be they live or otherwise.Without it,we shall not be able to place,hold and nourish any outer relationship.It's inherent in most of us in varying degrees but hardly ever realized,or at least in that manner.Our very desire to love someone proves it's existence and the degree to which we can love some one is also directly proportional to the degree of self love we have.That's why every one can't desire,yearn and love somebody with same intensity and magnitude.In a way,our love for someone is an extension of our self love,though in varying degrees.(Note:- in the expression 'Self love', the emphasis is on the self and' love' part being a function of the self but not entirely centered in to 'self').

Answer 3

Loving yourself means accepting yourself, the good, the bad, and the not-so-great parts of the self. If you know how to accept yourself, you're able to forgive yourself for being less than perfect and if you can accept and forgive yourself, you're then able to do the same for another human being. This is the basis for loving someone else - acceptance and forgiveness for being less than perfect.

Answer 4

It would be difficult to fully appreciate another's love if you don't love yourself. Taking care of yourself and understanding your needs and deficiencies will all the better equip you search for the right compliment and the right vessel for you to pour your love upon.

Answer 5

Yes, I must learn to love myself first; If I do not ,I will be somewhat needy, looking for someone else to fulfill me. That is a tall challenge for another human, they can help but they cannot know as well as I what is lacking.

Answer 6

I don't think so. I loved some people sooo much and I hated myself. But I also hated a lot of people too. I say it in the past tense cuz I ain't like that anymore cuz i don't hate myself.

Answer 7

True love is a give and take balance. You cannot give something of yourself that you do not HAVE of yourself. You cannot RESPECT something if you do not feel respect from within yourself.

To GIVE you must HAVE
To TAKE you must HAVE to give!!

Answer 8

Yes you should feel confident and secure with who you are: you likes dislike, goals ambitions and activities that you enjoy first so that insecurities do not become a problem.

Answer 9

I don't think so. Many times people sacrifice themselves or their needs to take care of their loved ones.

Answer 10

you ought not to be dependent on another for feelings of love. that could lead to "hurt." therefore, love yourself first! remember, you are ALWAYS with yourself. why not enjoy it?