If an alcohlic is lying about sometime should the non-alcohlic confront they about the lie. I am never sure if I should telll my boyfriend I know he is lying or not. I mean what's the point he is going to lie anyway. Causing me even more frustration.
2007-12-08 16:49:18 · 7 answers · asked by going to the dogs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Alchoholics always lie - especially about drinking in the first place! The best advice I can give you is to move on and stop the misery your boyfriend is causing you. And never argue with an alchoholic - you might as well be arguing with the bottle!
2007-12-08 16:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confronting him will do no good because you still may not know if he is lying or not. better to tell him to get involved with AA and get help with his drinking problem - which he may not be willing to do - or leave him. It may hurt now to throw him out but you will be a lot better off in the long run and perhaps save you a lot of frustration, and you may find someone you will have more of a future with. I will give you a site which may help you get past this and hope it helps. Good luck to you!
2007-12-09 01:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if he's going to deny it anyway, why ask, right? It will only cause trouble.
You have two choices. Ask boldly and without fear -OR- accept that you are a codependent doormat. I know you're not a doormat. Come on, you can get tough. You're strong enough.
You already know what's going on. You're not asking for HIM. YOU need to ask for YOU. If he lies to you AGAIN to compound the situation, he's telling you that he will LIE TO YOU over and over and YOU WILL LET HIM.
I've been with an alcoholic for seven years. I know first-hand. They will do whatever they think they can get away with.
Your frustration is your God-given alarm system. It's going off for a reason.
If you can't be honest NOW, then what? Are you going to do this for the rest of your life? The frustration only gets worse. (That alarm thing again.)
You can't help him by loving him more or accepting his crap. Crap is not love. Crap is crap.
Get strong, get honest, and get moving.
I know you can.
-sarah
2007-12-09 01:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by sarah71red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to confront him because if you don't you are not doing him or yourself any favors. He thinks he is getting away with it because you don't say anything. I certainly hope you don't have kids with him or plan on marrying him knowing that he has a drinking problem and lies all the time.
2007-12-09 00:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about the lie. If he lies to you about drinking he may be lying about other things. Think about the relationship and be honest with yourself if you want to be the booze babysitter the rest of your life.
2007-12-09 00:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can confront him all you want, it won't change a thing. It's time for you to decide if you want to live like this. I can tell you it's a losing battle that will wear you down to the nub. If you value yourself leave him.
2007-12-09 01:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urge him to go to aa and get a sponsor. It will be a relief off you. It is a disease. Treat it that way
2007-12-09 03:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋