He said that hes not sure if its his but the girl told him when she found out that he was marreid and had 2 kids that he could go back to his family and that he would never hear from her again what can i do its the 2nd time he cheated on me i need lots of advice please help?
2007-12-08 16:34:46 · 32 answers · asked by Nora+ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, it is time for you to start loving and respecting yourself. The hard part is over. You know! That should have been his biggest fear. Because the two of you have kids together does not mean he can just walk away from his responsibility, (if it is his kid) as a mother, you should encourage him to take care of the child if it is his, but you need to decide if this is something you can deal with. He is going to continue to cheat on you if you allow it. Don't be so afraid of losing him your lose yourself.
2007-12-08 16:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
That is not a good situation. He must be really dumb or else if he was gonna cheat he would have taken precautions!!. But, don't worry about him - he will be paying child support for 3 kids!! And when he does it again, maybe more. You need to plan to get away from him. Be strong, take the kids and kick him out. Tell him that he is not wanted in your life any more. You do not need someone who insists on cheating on you.
Get legal aid or a lawyer, and believe that there is a better life for you and your kids with someone who will treat you well and not cheat on you.
2007-12-08 16:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Azul 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's actually very simple.
Step 1: Call a divorce attorney.
Step 2: Toss husband's clothes out onto front lawn.
Step 3: Toss lit match into pile of clothes on front lawn.
Step 4: Change locks on all doors in house.
Step 5: Open champagne bottle and take big drink.
Step 6: Be thankful that you are getting rid of that cheating SOB!
2007-12-08 17:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by terribrooke 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, since this is the second time he has cheated on you, this means there will probably be a third time if you give him the chance. The fact, as well, there is a child now involved, means not only is he cheating, but he is not using protection. These types of actions give him a justifiable kick to the curb and have no regrets.
This sort of man will not change and he obviously has no respect for you or himself. Do you really want to continue putting your heart, body and soul at risk?
Think about it???
2007-12-08 16:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
obviously he has cheated on you now twice that you are aware off. He will continue to cheat on you as he knows you eventually take him back so in his eyes his not losing anything and gaining a conquest of having an affair.
This other female who will be having your husband child will continue to be in your life as your the mother to her child siblings, you are also the child step mother as long as you are married to her father.
This female may say your husband want see or hear from her but things change and as the child gets older there will be alot of questions.
The child maybe knocking on your door one day looking for its father.
You really need to be a strong person to know your husband has a child to someone else and quite possibly end out having to pay child support.
Which will be a reminder to you of the affair every time he has to pay.
Dont live in denial he will continue to cheat on you and if not on you he will do it to someone else.
I wish you the best of luck
2007-12-08 18:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by april 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
QUACK QUACK!!!
Your husband is a dog! a cheating dog that does not use protection when he does it. She may not have know about you and your children, but he did!
Next, if you stay with him, and allow him to possibly have a child out there and not support it so you can keep believing the pipe dream that he is not a CHEATER! then you are not a very nice person.
Look get a lawyer, this will not end. there is a good chance the kid is his, b/c he told you. think about what he may gotten away with.
If you do not you may end up with something you cannot get rid of.
2007-12-08 16:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seeing as how this is his 2nd time cheating...
Definately get a lawyer and leave(or you can make him leave, the courts are on your side). He cheated once, he's only human, and you forgave him. But he did it to you again, and look. There's now a baby in the picture. If you choose to stay with him, there will always be the doubt in your mind that he will do it to you again.
Also, may I suggest getting checked for STD's and HIV? 1/3 of people who have HIV/AIDS got it without knowing it from their partners.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-12-08 16:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If he did it once and said he was sorry and tried to change, then perhaps give him a second chance but he had that and blew it. You can try counseling to see why he needs somone else when he has you but otherwise I would dump him and find someone who is there for you and not any girl who has no morals and will sleep with him. You can look at the comments about marriage at the site I will give you but if you can't trust him to keep his tool in his pants, you are better off without him.
2007-12-08 16:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first you don't know for sure this woman will go away.she may be hard up and any time can go for support.that's the financial end of it then there is also there is a problem him doing it . it won;t be the last unless things change in your marriage that he is lacking.the only a guys going to cheat is because sex isn't working at home for whatever reason.he has to be honest and tell you whats wrong and you need to be open for change.if those things don't happen then time to find new mates.good luck.hope it works for you
2007-12-08 16:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mac 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking of the two children that you have...
If nothing else, even if not for the love of yourself, what type of message do you think this sends to your children? God forbid you have a daughter that witnesses you letting your husband run over you like a dump truck.
It is your responsibility to provide the safest and most healthy environment for them, not stay with there father for the "safety" of it. Send a clear message to them by letting them see their father, but separating yourself from this insanity. It will back up many of the lessons that you strive to teach them throughout their lives.
Good luck, and I am so sorry you are having to go through this.
2007-12-08 16:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by glassesguru 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋