I am really annoyed my husband for not telling the truth to his parents.?
My mother and family are very handy people. My mom went out of her way to help us install laminate flooring and backsplash in the kitchen. she took 2 days off from work to help us do the job properly and also showed my husband how to use the cutting machine for the backsplash. I was expecting that my husband will tell his parents that he completed theses two projects with the help of my mom and that there was lot of work involved. Instead he just said it that yeah WE did all the work in 2 days and didn't mention anything to his parents that he was able to do all this because of my mom and her assistance. His mom now thinks that he did everything.and i am not happy with this because to me this is a lie. I hate when people doesn't give credit to those people who have went out of their way to help them. I did talk to my husband about this and that his thing was that that there is already a friction in two families
2007-12-08 15:52:30 · 12 answers · asked by c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is this a big issue to you? If your husband (who knows his family a lot better than you do) does not want to tell them that your parents helped, why is it an issue? Why are you trying to control what he says to his family, are you that insecure?
There is friction already, and your husband does not want to add to the friction! Have you considered this; perhaps his family thinks they are handy, and really are not. They would be insulted if he did not allow them to help, and had someone else help instead! Your husband, knowing that they are not qualified, did not want them to help, but also did not want to hurt their feelings!
Perhaps he does not want to admit that a woman knew more about home repair than he did, or his family would have given him grief about it!
It was not an issue or a problem, until you decided to make it one. You need to back off a bit and understand that you may be a good portion of the cause of the friction between the two families.
You seem to want to control everything, and this is going to lead to a lot of stress in your marriage
2007-12-08 16:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how that would bother you, so now that u have told him this and if he still continue to not say anything about your parents helping then I guess it's up to u to say something. If the subject comes up again regrading the work that was done on your kitchen floors just simply say that yeah if it wasn't for my mom helping and showing us how ans what to do we may have had to pay someone to do it.
She was a big help to us say it like it's nothing and if ur hubby has anything to say about it the defend what u said then say to him HEY I'M HAPPY MY MOM HELPED US OUT AND I'M NOT ASHAME TO LET ANYONE NO, I MEAN SHE DID HELP!!
He should have mention she helped out because she did help and I'm sure you mom is proud of the fact that you both asked for her help and that she did a good job helping.
your hubby is in the wrong on this one, whatever issues he has with his parents he needs to resolve them and it shouldn't affect the relationship with u and him
2007-12-09 00:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why cry over something so small? Who cares if he does not go into detail with everything. It seems to me like you want to put your parents up on the high stool and have his parents look up to them. You ahve to grow up a little and stop worrying about the small things in life.
2007-12-08 23:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Nae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's alright.don't make a fuss about it.next time when u get the chance to speak with your mom in law,just bring up the topic whenever you can.just,bring it up in a humble way so your mother in law would not misinterpret anything.don't bring it up out of the blue.if your mom in law mentions anything about the new kitchen,then maybe you can start saying,"yeah we're thankful for mom for being around for 2 days to help out.." things like that.just don't give specific details for it may be too obvious.yes i believe give the credit to where the credit's due.nothing's wrong with it.just don't forget to thank also your mom in law for any help that she might have been given to you as well. =)
2007-12-09 00:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by αςhα ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
omg! this stinks
if there is friction amongst the two families, maybe he wasn't trying to add to the drama by making his mom jealous of being around your mom. that's the only thing i can think of. it's good you two talked about it, and hopefully you were able to express your anger about it, and hopefully he understands why you are upset. but he should have mentioned it, regardless.
2007-12-09 00:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by "everythings liscious" 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
So what is the question?
Just do not be one of these wives who insist on making problems out of nothing. Sure, he was in the wrong. But so were you at some point in the past.
Good luck.
2007-12-08 23:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He has to get over it and needs to learn that he needs to give credit where credit is due...if you have to, discreetly slip it into conversation with the in-laws.
2007-12-08 23:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by oops 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Y make a fuss if it truly dose bother u tell his parents ur self.
2007-12-09 16:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by air 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Man, you probably jump on that poor guy for every little thing don't you?
2007-12-09 00:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents in-laws yourself. That's what I would do, even after the incident.
2007-12-09 00:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋