I am 31 y/o married woman with 2 children. I am happily married, I go to college full time to get a better career. The thing is, I'm obsessed with my husbands ex g/f. He dated her for about 4 years before he and I met, she was his first love & although she had cheated on him in their relationship, he always went back to her. I met him while he was still dating her. He cheated on her with me and eventually he broke up with her to be with me. We married and have been happily together ever since...so about 5 years. Well I found his ex g/f myspace page a little over a year ago. I couldn't help myself, I hated seeing her page online! I made a fake profile and tried to break up her relationship. EVer since then I'm obsessed with her and I find myself looking at her myspace page several times every day. I write and send mean comments to other people's pages that I know she will see, to make her mad. I love my life, I love my husband, my children. Y do I hate her so much? Y can't I let it go?
2007-12-08 15:37:16 · 11 answers · asked by says ME. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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Honestly don't think I could tell my husband! I would sound crazy to him, right? Not sure a husband could forgive a wife for worrying about an ex! No she's never done anything to try to hurt us.
2007-12-08 15:46:42 · update #1
I can tell you by experience that you are being a little unjust. My wife also had a first love before me.But that is the key "before",,,He didn't know you then. Each person have their own history. You are paying her a great complement by hating her. She has no clue or really cares about you or your life. She is over you and your husband,,,so why waste your time on her? Life is too short. Enjoy your beautiful family. Your husband loves you,,,he obviously chose you. You won,,,Why pay tribute to her now?,,Let it go,,,it's not worth the energy,,,,Let go,,,be happy,,,
2007-12-08 15:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For what reason do you wish to harm this woman? She did nothing to you. Let it go and concentrate on your marriage. She is not part of it. Also, how can you say you are happy together when you obviously feel she is some sort of threat to you?
Enjoy your life - leave the past where it belongs, in the past.
2007-12-08 16:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you want,you took her man away,what else?Time to grow up and act like you are a 31 year old college student.Sh has moved on and you have not.Did you have any boyfriends before you and your husband met?He had a life ,so what you are his life now,move on before you mess something up.
2007-12-08 16:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep seeing an image of a fruit bat.
2007-12-08 15:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy.. if she has never did anything to you.. to cause trouble.for you and your man.. you need to stop.. karma will get you in the end.. do not ill will it will come back 3 folds
2007-12-08 15:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the same things you say here!! But ya gotta turn it loose, it'll destroy your marriage!!
2007-12-08 15:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just upset that she was his first love and you weren't. It's hard knowing that there was someone in your love's life before you....
2007-12-08 15:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wasting so much of your precious time and energy on her...why give her so much power - use it to grow your mind, heart and soul.
peace
2007-12-08 16:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lani M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you won,you got him!!just forget about her,your hubby probably already has.
2007-12-08 16:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sinister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you hate her, you were the original homewrecker.
2007-12-08 15:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋