Seriously how do you forgive someone who hurt the people you loved so many times? This person is and been in a place in their life where they need me but so am I and just can't let go of what he did?
2007-12-08 15:32:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a family member not a boyfriend.
2007-12-08 17:51:42 · update #1
to forgive any thing and restore any relationship forgiveness has to happen, forgiveness is something i think one has to work on daily if someone has hurt u.
2007-12-08 18:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to forgive and forget. The forgiving is the easy part. Forgetting is the hard part. If you choose to stay in this relationship, then you must forget. You must never bring it up again, never accuse the same behavior, and never bring it up to anyone again for any reason. If you absolutely can't let go, then you must move on and get out of the relationship. If this is cheating, I understand. You need to remember that many times a cheater is not sorry they cheated only sorry they got caught cheating. Good luck.
2007-12-08 23:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By knowing who you are and How well your state of mind is. Often times we have a hard time forgiving because we are dealing with issues ourselves. The best complement you can pay a person is not to forgive them. If you truly want to end affairs and thoughts about that person, then you need to forgive and let him out of your system. Protect and guard yourself so the person, never, ever could hurt you again,,,,,good luck!
2007-12-08 23:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always make a conscious decision to forgive a person if that is truly what you want to do. But you may never forget it, especially if they hurt you and others. And you may risk hurting someone else's feelings by resuming/continuing contact with that person. You just have to decide to let it go, but you will know in your heart if you can't forgive them. Good luck!
2007-12-08 23:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can not let go of what this person did it is time to get this person out of your life. Love yourself and stop letting this person make you feel bad about yourself. I have been there, and not being able to forgive a hurt only makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. You did not cause this hurt, whatever it may be. It is their burden to carry, not your burden.
2007-12-08 23:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by laura_9090mi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to move on is to forgive and forget. Let him know how you feel and how he has hurt your feelings many times, but you are willing to give him another chance and let him know that he better not screw up again!! You will have to put your trust in him and put everything in the past and try to move on, so that you can be there for each other.
2007-12-08 23:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Torrey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easy way: you pray and explain to God your problem,then ask God to forgive that person,and you say praying to God that you also forget that person.Now it is done.You do not think about that situation again.But if you do not want to have contact or relationship,or friendship with that person,this is okay too.Because for sure if you come back to be friend with that person,that person will hurt you again,and again.And we never can be fool twice.Best thing after pray is move on,and ignore that people at all,forever.Good question.
2007-12-08 23:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a strong relationship with God. Realize if you want to get to heaven, we must forgive. I always tell people it would be to inhuman to forget. Explain to this person you need peace of mind and have to resolve this situation so that you can go on with your life. You are to blessed to be stressed!! Take care of this situation now and sleep at night!!!!!!
2007-12-08 23:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just pray to give ur heart a will to forgive then forget about it...get a new life...u will only suffer if u will continue to put hatred in ur heart so let it go..
2007-12-08 23:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by light girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
should he be in your life?
try to look more on the good things then on the bad things they've done.
2007-12-08 23:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by crns1000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋