My 8 year old told me a young 19 year old female has been sitting in my husbands lap at the races. I dont like it A few friends say it is no big deal because she has a boyfriend. What do you think?
2007-12-08 15:29:40 · 26 answers · asked by spence6209@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is a big deal! you need to investigate that!
2007-12-08 15:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by mz_neemarie 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible that your 8 year old has to be the messenger!! Tell your husband that you do not appreciate that behavior and it is embarrassing and hurtful to you that he has a 19 year old girl sitting on his lap! Ask if it has gone any further than that.
2007-12-08 15:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Torrey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no big deal!!.??...yeah right!. It is a big deal..call me old fashion but I would consider that disrespectful, not only to you but to your kid too, and what kind of woman is she that even when she has a boyfriend goes around sitting on a married man's lap!!...would you do the same thing?..I don't think so. If it bothers you, then you should talk to your husband.
2007-12-08 15:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very big deal. I would ask him about it. Your husband shouldn't be letting anyone except you and your kids sit in his lap. If it was my husband I would cut his lap off, if you know what I mean.
2007-12-08 16:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not good. If I found some young guy sitting in my wife's lap, the only race going on would be the ambulance racing his severely injured and dying as s to the nearest ER.
2007-12-08 15:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP, no 19 year old sits in a mans lap without something going on, If she has a boyfriend, that's to cover up haveing a manfriend. Confront HIM.
2007-12-08 15:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds strange. You better check into it. Kids are pretty truthful because they don't know how to lie at age 8. Not only could this mean trouble for your marriage but your husband is not only embarassing himself but you in public if she is sitting on his lap.....unless there is a really good reason. Who is she?
2007-12-08 15:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy and though i dont let it happen bc im in a relationship, yea its a big deal. would he allow a man to hold you in his lap? we all know where a hug leads, a friendly touch, a kiss...... i would be questioning if i was you and tell him you are worried. its ok to have friends of the opposite sex but stuff like that is a no no if your just friends.
2007-12-08 15:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bear Chanez 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your husband regarding this and see the reaction. if it is positive reaction ask him to call her home and make friendship with her and see that you should be better friend than your hubby, she should start sharing things with you never let her know why you are doing so, try to advise her in all her things in this point of view that she should understand what she is doing. try to tell her that you are my friend and i'm sharing my things with you and tell some thing about your husband which she dont like it.
if your husband want to hide this from you tell him strat forward that kids get wrong impression on this make him realise that what wrong he is doing, try to give him more attention so that his family should be his first prioty.
2007-12-08 15:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the races with him.
Evidently she is giving him some sort of attention he craves.
So, dress to impress. Pretend that he is a guy that you want to take home. Give him compliments, flatter him, flirt.
Okay - it may sound stupid...but you need to let her know that you are attracted to your man. You need to let him know that you want him, but you also need to make him want you. Don't be coy, think back to what he likes, what he wants. You can do it.
Right now he is your man. Keep him.
2007-12-08 15:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So do you think nothing is going on because she is only nineteen and has a boyfriend?? Would it be ok if you sat on some guys lap?
2007-12-08 15:38:32 · answer #11 · answered by veronica c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋