Like people will tell you youre attractive and a fun person, but you look in the mirror and you don't see it. Like no matter what people try to tell you, you don't believe 'em?
is there a reason it's like this?
2007-12-08 14:53:03 · 16 answers · asked by lol 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think that basically we are all insecure creatures and don't believe everything we hear. All it take for the insecuries to take over is one person to degrade you and then we never seem to listen to the good that others say to us.
2007-12-08 14:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by silver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance tells me I'm attractive all the time, and always says nice things about my eyes, and how I'm the most beautiful woman on earth, and what a good person I am and all that. I look in the mirror and see a short, fat Pollock.
I think as far as the science and psychology of it goes is that if people are tormented at an early age, or have been through something traumatic, it causes them to have very low self-esteem, and causes them to have little to no self worth. I'm not going to say what has happened to me, but many bad things have, thus why I don't think too much of myself. even compliments, like, "you did a good job!" are hard for me to take to heart.
2007-12-08 15:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Weesy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I have experienced the same feeling many times. It is very normal. Many people are usually their own worst critics and have a hard time seeing themselves with loving eyes. Can all those people be wrong though? Chances are, if people are telling you that you are attractive and fun, I bet you probably are! Try to see yourself from another person's point of view... focus on all of your positive qualities, and strive to learn from your negative ones. Talk to yourself as a friend would talk to you. Don't listen to those negative voices. Would you ever tell a friend or someone you loved any of those negative things? Why treat yourself any different?
2007-12-08 15:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by HannaRN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't see themselves the way that others do. It can be two reasons for this, a self defense, if the people don't think that you're a very nice person. and the other is sometimes it's hard to realize that we have good qualities as well as some not so great. It's nice to think that we're different than others see us or that we're not as bad as we see ourselves.
2007-12-08 15:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. We carry a mental picture that we superimpose over anything we see of ourselves. If we have been raised to think we are ugly or to feel ugly, we see that when we are looking at our image. Others see us more clearly in that aspect - sometimes it can help to get an 8x10 glamour portrait made of yourself and look at it objectively - try to think of yourself as a stranger in that shot and get some head shots of people you think are attractive and be sure you examine them in the same excruciating detail you look at yourself - most celebrities are not that different in appearance from you or I, they just have makeup artists and hair stylists make them gorgeous for the cameras and that is what we see, where we see ourselves.
2007-12-08 15:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, believe in yourself. Don't be caught up looking in the mirror all day long. For Gods sake there are people who are disfigured and live a normal live. Get over it, that's why diversity is such a beautiful thing.
2007-12-08 15:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by rhtzzn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so many people feel like this. The reason we all see ourselves like this is because everyone is overly critical of themselves, and when they're inside themselves and around them self all the time (like when you spend too much time with another person) you start to have a different idea of who they really are.
2007-12-08 14:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for one...we are more critical about our self perception on who we are. We are looking from the inside (full of contradictions, emotions etc) other people are only seeing us at face value and some only see us from a physical view.
2007-12-08 14:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by missellie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens to me all the time. People say I have wonderful eyes but I dont think they are nice...I guess its just either a confidence problem or maybe just refusal.
2007-12-08 14:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by imsmartkid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Thank GOD for that ..If I believed what people told me about myself I don't think I would be here to answer this ...believe what you think you are, don't let other people believes get or push you to beliving anything else. be what you are, not what other people think or tell you are
2007-12-08 15:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by saveitok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋