Hocus Pocus, or should I take it seriously, women?

Question

I'm in a relationship that has been very rocky over the last two months. We have finally achieved some calm after the storm and are relatively at peace. We seem to be communicating more and our sex life has even intensified. However, she has become very spiritual of late. Nothing in particular-- sort of New Age meets Buddhism with a sprinkle of a lil' ol' timey 'ligion. Anyway, she comes off as being enlightened and seems to be ramming it down my throat-- sort of like those Saturday morning Jehovah Witnesses. "I should see life like this," or "I should do this and that," or "I need to change." Everything seems to be contingent on her moving ahead and leaving me behind. Like she's on this enlightened path and if I don't pursue my own course of spirituality and become enlightened, then she's just going to have to move forward without me. Mind you, I'm a Dr. and the main bread winner. I feel that it means little. Women, what's this about?? I'm about 'bout to show her the door. Help!

Answer 1

A common misconception is that Jehovah's Witnesses go from door-to-door because they feel it is their duty to "recruit" a householder, or get him to "change". In fact, Jehovah's Witnesses would go from door-to-door even if there were no hope that anyone would change their religion, or even if no one would listen to them!

That is because Jesus Christ specifically assigned the house-to-house ministry to the Christian congregation, with no regard for specific results.

(Luke 10:1,2) After these things the Lord designated seventy others and sent them forth by twos in advance of him into every city and place to which he himself was going to come. 2 Then he began to say to them: “The harvest, indeed, is great, but the workers are few. Therefore beg the Master of the harvest to send out workers into his harvest.

Jehovah's Witnesses are trained to direct attention to the bible, and move on when their message is unwanted. Since each congregation in the United States tries to call at every home in its territory at least twice each year, there is strong motivation for them to move on where little interest is shown. Also, the Scriptures help the Witnesses to expect little interest from most:

(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching ...and they will turn their ears away from the truth, whereas they will be turned aside to false stories. You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/jt/
http://jw-media.org/people/ministry.htm

Answer 2

When a person gets into something new...particularly spiritually speaking...it's like a recovering alcoholic, smoker, addict, etc.
"I did it; I feel great, and everyone else should do it too."

It usually doesn't last for any length of time, it's the newness of it all. If she is shoving it down your throat, let her know that it is not your cup of tea, but that she is free to follow the path that makes her feel better about herself--without any worries about you trying to stop her.

You said that your intimate life has improved, and that things, in general, are going well. That's a good sign.

I think things will be okay between you...I don't think she's going anywhere and leaving you behind. This seems to be self-improvement for her. If she's happy, and still being there for you, then you should be happy as well :)

Answer 3

You guys aren't connecting in a way that satisfies her. It probably isn't really about her feeling enlightened and leaving you in the dark, but more her exaggerating your differences in a last attempt to find a middle ground between the 2 of you....bottom line, its probably not gonna work out.

Answer 4

She is doing what is best for her at this moment in time. Best to let her do it and if she moves forawrd, then let her. You do not want to be in a relationship without mutual connection and belief and neither does she. Who knows maybe it's time to step down to friends. If she is bothering you and you not wanting to follow is bothering her, then don't you think you answered your question yourself? Best bet is to just be honest and sit down with her and talk to her about your concerns. After all honesty is a main foundation to any relationship. Good luck and hope this helped out a bit!

Answer 5

Yeah, I fell into that New Age pattern. Felt like all the answers were coming to me. Felt alive, in tune with myself. I thought I had to share it with the world too. Thought I found a new way to a healthy life. I saw life in simpler terms, believing a higher inner-self or One or God Consciousness knew what was best for me and guided me and changed me on a daily basis. I began to delve into natural healing, healing with god's energy which wasn't all that bad, just not very effective. For example, take reiki. It is where you channel god's energy through your hands to heal yourself and others. It sure didn't work on my ear infection but was a good form of relaxation. I began paying very close to my intuition which I must add was completely off track "in my" case. Then started the channeling of spirits and that just left me totally crazy. To actually believe dead people can communicate to and through us. I know alot of people believe in psychic ability. Many are phony too. I will add this too. My very first teacher of this who allowed me to see her for a mere $20 in the beginning is now charging hundreds for all sorts of classes. Chakras, sole mates, crystal work, aromatherapy, etc. So I guess it works for some people.

I found it hard to write my experience down so sorry if parts do not make sense. I don't know how this will relate to you. It is just that my experience was not that good of one.