Just a question?? Grandmother question?

Question

I have a 2 1/2 month old. How can i tell my bf's mother politly to slow down on buying things cuz i want to buy things for my child whithout her gettin affended??

Answer 1

Grandparents always go over the top for grandkids. Here's how I always try to look at it: She probably always wanted to do all these things for her own kids but couldn't because she had to be practical about money. But as a grandparent she doesn't have to worry about buying an outrageously overpriced toy or piece of clothing at the expense of having enough money for diapers or a college savings account. If she asks for buying suggestions you can steer her towards things you need, but short of her asking you just need to be gracious. Invest your money in a good college savings account for your child, you'll get lots of credit for that (the baby is never going to remember who bought his 3-6 month clothes).

Answer 2

i would say that you should just be gracious and accept the things she buys... and just use what you want and donate what you don't use... but i know that sometimes family members with extra cash and nowhere to spend it can get a little out of control... my step-mother's aunt did this ALL the time for my little sisters... she would bring over SO much stuff that we must have had like 2 or 3 toy boxes overflowing with toys, and so many toys and shoes that they'd never wear... finally my step-mom just told her that she really did appreciate everything she was buying for the girls, but that it was just too much stuff and she couldn't use it all!! her aunt understood and toned it down a bit... there was no hard feelings and everyone won in the situation!! good luck... =)

Answer 3

let a white lie... just let her know that with everything she is buying, you would like her to ask you if you've already gotten your baby something because you've done a lot of shopping yourself and would like to prevent as many doubles as possible, also pick out certain things that you want to get, and let her know not to get them because you are getting them already... grandmothers will always buy a lot, they like to spoil their grandchildren lol i've learned asking them to not buy so much doesn't really work, but letting them know what you're getting, have already gotten, or really want to be the one to get will eliminate them buying the same things you want to give your baby

Answer 4

Tell her that you appreciate all that she is doing and let her know that there are some things that you would like to do and get. Kindly ask her to cut back on the amount that she is doing.

Answer 5

Don't worry about it, accept the items and say thank you, and then either return them or don't use them, give them to charity etc. don't take away her joy of buying the items, it's just that you don't have to use them - once they are yours you can do what you want with them.