How should I tell him? It's his of course.
2007-12-08 13:58:38 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is in jail until february. He got picked up for unpaid fines from 04'. He is a good guy. He will be a great dad. I just want it to be perfect when I tell him. He already takes care of our two year old.
And it's great to be me.
2007-12-08 14:06:30 · update #1
Next time you bring you two year old in to visit (if it's also his child) have him/her wear a shirt that says "I'm a big brother/sister". See if he figures it out.
Merry Christmas and congrats!
2007-12-08 14:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Be Still and know He's God 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a pretty bad start. Actually, I think your best bet is finding a guy out of jail and with a job and residence. There are guys that would accept your pregnancy and baby much as their own.
Depending on what your bf is in jail for has much to do with things. But he may be in a felony career in which he could be headed for a long term prison where inmates are paid about 35 cents an hour. If so, you won't see child support or visitation.
You can tell him it's his. My bet is his response will be for you to prove it with DNA. And then he will give you the "You can't squeeze blood out of a turnip" routine. 2.3 million incarcerated in the US and you have one. About 90 million adult men with jobs and freedom. About 35 million of them single.
And ever notice with Red Cross Blood Donations if you have been jailed for even 24 hours since 1980 they don't want your blood? Guess why? That's due to the risk of HIV/AIDs. A problem in almost all the jails and prisons in the US (bigger the city or county the worse it is. State prisons stoll worse). Even John Gotti was paying $5000 a month to not get buggered. And he was head of the US Crime syndicate outside. He quit paying once and got stabbed and buggered. So he wisely paid up the the Aryan Brotherhood. Jails and prison are very good places to avoid.
Too bad he's a good guy in for unpaid tickets. He would be much better off if he were a member of the Aryan Brotherhood, Mexican Mafia or Black Brotherhood. Unattached inmates are most often selected as pinks for the others. Course if your jail is segregated for minor offenders he will be much better off.
2007-12-08 14:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by genghis1947 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gosh you young people are stupid. Why would you even date a guy who is in jail?? Obviously he is a troubled kid so why would you even have sex with him??? And now you are going to bring a child into this world and it will grow up to be just like you...stupid! I know thats sad to say, but the reason that so many kids now and days are messed up is because there parents where not ready to have them. Give the baby up to a family who will care for it and take care if it THE RIGHT WAY. LOSE YOUR BOYFRIEND AND GET BACK ON TRACK! Stop having sex at your age and wait until you find a good man who does not go to jail.
As for your boyfriend/loser guy. Write him a letter and dump his butt, then tell him about his child. Then tell him you are giving it to a family who can take care of it.
ADD ON - You say he is a great guy, yet you post this question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiElbKlIZ4zhAlN0QJI_67rty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071128144542AAHdSOP
2007-12-08 14:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by dohm84 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How long is he in jail for? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this man? Will he be a good father when he gets out? Those are all questions you must ask yourself. Life is never easy. Just make sure you make the right choice for your child.
2007-12-08 14:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by seattlesonicsnumberone 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That might be the best news to him! I am sure he is having a hard time being confined and if he loves you then he will be really happy. It's better you do it face to face though. Maybe you can say, remember that time we had sex.....etc, etc. Well, I have a souveneir, something like that. Good luck but he deserves to know. The longer you wait the more suspicious he'll get.
2007-12-08 14:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Grant N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's really only one way to tell him and that's to just do it. The fact that he's in jail will atleast give him time to think about things. Trust me - I know a thing or two about boyfriends in jail.
2007-12-08 14:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Marshmallow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far along are you? This is your life you're talking about, are you sure you want to reproduce with a person who got into jail? You Do NOT have to have a baby and cut off all your other possibilities (or make them incredibly difficult to pursue).
I am constantly amazed that we require people to get a license to drive a car, yet creating a whole new human regardless of circumstances can be done by anyone who is physically able to.
2007-12-08 14:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by spoky 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should most definately need to tell him in person and as soon as possible.This will give him something to really think about while he is in there . Perhaps he will think twice about what kind of life his child will lead without him being there to guide him or her.This is going to be hard for you both and I hope you get through this.(As you didn't say how long he was in for)
2007-12-08 14:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important that you tell him soon. Be straight forward and talk about what is in the best interest of you and the coming child.
2007-12-08 14:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Aquarius 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him next time you go see him. Maybe give him a holiday card from the baby (if you do any holidays this time of year).
2007-12-08 14:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋