If I said to my husband that I didn't want to go to his Christmas party. Do you think he should go or not?

Question

It's his work Christmas party and I said I didn't want to go because I'm not feeling well(since yesterday) He left a half hour ago to go to it. I now feel real crappy inside and uncertain on his feelings:(

I didn't tell him to NOT go - I left that up to him and by all means I would not ever say to not go I just thought he'd have a little bit more compassion regarding the fact I'm not feeling well and would stay with me. I guess I'm a little insecure right now!

Answer 1

I think it should be a no-pressure decision on his part, but if he wants to go, he should go

Answer 2

He has to work with those people the rest of the year so I would say he should at least go long enough to put in an appearance but unless there is a reason that you don't want to go, you should go with him. You can always go and leave early because as a family you should do things together and that would include Christmas parties but you can also put in a quick appearance and then go out somewhere else and have you own Christmas party!!

Answer 3

You stated that you weren't feeling well. If you were deathly ill and he went then I would see the problem. Don't fret. I am sure you will be missed. Try not to pout when he gets home. Hopefully since you aren't feeling well he will just go for while and then come home early to check on you.

Answer 4

It all depends...does he want to go? If so, why? If it would in any way help his career he should go. If it's just an ordinary office party where no one cares whether he comes or not, he does not need to go and should spend the evening with you.

Answer 5

Can you clarify if it is his work Christmas party or a friends Christmas party. I would say if you don't want to go that it is still his option to go and if my husband said he wasn't going to go to my Company Christmas Party then I would still go.

Is there a reason why you don't want to go or want him to go with out you?

Answer 6

I can totally relate but I have learned after almost 15 years of marriage that MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS! You probably wanted him to stay, because you would have done that for him, right? Men are simple creatures and they just don't get it. I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 7

I am 100% sure he feels just as bad and insecure also. You put him in a bad situation and he should have gone.
You should have just explained to him that you are too sick to go and how you really wish you could accompany him and for him to go and enjoy himself.

Answer 8

You didn't want to go. That is not his fault that you fell ill or just plain didn't want to go. A Christmas party is usually fun and exciting (sometimes) so if I were him, I'd want to go. I'm sure he was disappointed that you didn't go but you snooze you loose.

Answer 9

First of all if you didnt want to go to his christmas party at his job that is your choice but he should still go if this is what he wants to do.

best of luck

Answer 10

You should stay home until you feel better. You're not a child who needs somebody there. He should go, but hopefully he'll be nice enough to call and see how you're feeling.

Answer 11

THAT ALL DEPENDS ON WHY YOU DON'T WANT TO GO TO HIS CHRISTMAS PARTY. CHRISTMAS IS A TIME OF LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP HE MAY NOT EVEN WANT TO GO WITHOUT YOU. UNLESS YOU HAVE A REAL GOOD REASON FOR NOT GOING THEN LET HIM GO.