Do you still have the same excitement you have when you first saw each other? may be not, ok so what keeps you attracted to your partner ? Out of obligation or something else ? this is a sinscere question from a single guy who wants to be married but haven't even dated so far..
2007-12-08 13:31:12 · 22 answers · asked by Noah B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know if the term "excitement" is the right expression for a successful, long term marriage. Love, respect and communication are more important. The ability to stand together through good times and bad. I can honestly say I love and understand my husband more than the day we were married. I can't imagine my life without him.
My Hubby and I are no longer in the "bloom of youth". And tee hee. there is still a bit of spark in the old Grammy and Papaw.
2007-12-08 13:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I dont feel the same excitement, sometimes I do like if my husband is dressed up in a suit and I am kept away from him for a few hours or something. I am attracted to him because we are so comfortable around each other, he is my best friend, we know everything about each other and I just couldn't imagine the rest of my life without him. We have a child together also which helps : ) It's not really an obligation so much as we just don't feel any reason to be apart nor do we want to.
2007-12-08 13:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm excited, but it's not the same excitement...it's better. We've developed a relationship that is well beyond lust and the care free dating days. We have learned to trust each other, be compassionate, be understanding and how to truely love. I never thought my heart could be any bigger than when I met her...it is at least hundred times bigger today. This occurs without moral obligation, but rather a real friendship. BTW, I've been married nearly 23 years, have two awesome kids and wouldn't change a thing.
2007-12-08 13:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Brad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We often say to each other how amazed we are that we both feel the same as we did when we first fell in love. It seems like yesterday, not all the years that have gone by. Almost everything attracts me to my partner; his humor, his care and compassion for other people, his kindness, attentiveness and his inner beauty. I would never stay married out of obligation; but, I would never marry in haste either. It is worth waiting for the person you know you want to be with and not settling for less.
2007-12-08 17:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't keep that same walking-on-air excitement, but what keeps happy couples together is a strong sense of shared goals, and an enjoyment of similar things in life. You have to really respect the other person to begin with, and like them as a friend in addition to loving them.
2007-12-08 13:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there are always ups and downs in a marriage. you need to get through them. yes there still can be the same excitement plus more. you learn a lot and are willing to experience more as the years go by. you become best friends and are able to surpass all the bad or dumb things that get in your way. your not afraid to try new things. and as we got into our 27th year now we have done things we had never done. so yes yes yes there is still excitement as long as you are both willing to explore. good luck.
2007-12-08 14:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by madmax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband walks through the door after being gone all day at work i am full of excitement. i am very much attracted to him and we have been married for 12 years we still have a lot of sex and we take drives we cuddle and we talk about everything. we have a friendship in a marriage and so far its great...
2007-12-08 13:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by KING AND ME 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the excitement level isnt exactly the same but the relationship is much stronger now than it was then. now that we both know we can trust our lives with each other and we both know how to please each other so well. we are also very comfortable with each other. my advise is date lots of different girls and when you find the right one hold onto her for good. for some guys that doesnt work because they need to have different women at all times, but it sounds like you are the type that would rather find the right one and settle down
2007-12-08 13:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by negaduck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope you are thirty... If not, U have no business even worrying abt this stuff. Secondly, get some dating under your belt and hopefully some financial security. Third, find someone who is genuinely a good person and who truly cares abt you and not what you may or may not have. Preferrably educated and decent looking... not a model or anything. It truly helps if a person is secure and not a ******. Finally, you have to learn to deal with their shortcomings. Also, learn to say "sorry", often and "yes dear" helps too...
2007-12-08 13:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Black Ice 71 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I still get a smile on my face every time I see my husband(unless I'm pissed), simply because he is good looking. I still get excited that we are together and what keeps me attracted to my partner is his humor. He makes me laugh so hard and we have similar outlooks on life.
2007-12-09 12:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by sesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋