I have been married jist over a year and in that time i found that my wife is addicted to sleeping pill.(She overdosed acadentley last november that was my wakeup call) Have been to several theapest that told hir it was just a bad time in her life and that she was not addicted. Finel two moths ago i was at the end of my rope after finding more pill I moved out. Found hir a therapest that spechelized in addiction and got hir set up with this person. now my wife has been clean for a month. Wih the addiction come all the challanges it has on a relationship. during that time my wife has been a pathalogacal lyer ling about everything from money to leagel issies ifound ot that she had file for bancrupsey 4 years ago thing just seem to keep poping up. She is a great gir that i love very much but i dont trust her any more! I am alway thinking i will find more pill alway seeking around to see wat she has in hir pures or car lookinf for the pills. How do i get over the trust probloms or will I??
2007-12-08 13:21:29 · 8 answers · asked by irishfirefighter762 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a trust issue it is hard to forgive a person or even believe in them when they have done things to loose your trust in them. You just have to forgive her in your heart and let things take its course that the only way you will be able to trust her again, and if you still feel as though you have to keep checking around if she is up to her old self than it will not work out for the best you will always be on pins and needles.
sometime loves takes a lot out of you and you have to give a lot also. Ask god for his guidance and he will take care of you.
best of luck
2007-12-08 13:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you this, do what you can to help her without being mean, insultive, or belittling, if you really love her don't add insult to injury by making her feel lower then she probably already does. Loving her can't make her stop, or help her with whatever issues she had to get her to this point but you are gonna have a rough time and it's gonna be hard on you to sit back with all these feelings and not be able to help her, she'll have to decide to help herself and as for the trust problems, as long as she's still doing what she's doing, there will be no trust and that is the plain truth, but if you love her don't give up easy, do what you can, but realize there's only so much you can do.
2007-12-08 15:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't get over that trust issue. I would like to say your spelling is better than many of us. I could understand what you said. Most others that misspell words is because they are too lazy to spell them correctly. Thanks for letting everyone know.
Give her a year of being clean before deciding when to move back in together. Her having a full year of being clean will be a good indication she's kicked the habit for good.
2007-12-08 13:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could join a group like alonon for spouses of addicted people. You could also see about doing marriage counseling if you want the marriage to work. I understand that the pathological lying is tough, but if she is not addicted anymore, then maybe she won't be lying anymore, but your trust will only be regained by time and her actions. If you want the marriage to work, give it to her.
2007-12-08 14:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST IS SOMETHING THAT IS EARNED AND YOUR BOUND TO HAVE A TRUST ISSUE AFTER WHAT HAS HAPPENED. TIME WILL TELL AS TO WEATHER OR NOT SHE CAN BE TRUSTED AGAIN. TAKE THINGS ONE DAY AT A TIME.
2007-12-08 13:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will ever get over it, and it sound's like she has way deeper issues.
2007-12-08 13:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she needs a inpatient treatment facility for her addiction--if she can overcome this, then u can work on ur marriage
2007-12-08 13:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
is she un-happy?? that was my issues to beat!!
2007-12-08 15:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋