Is this wrong?

Question

You know how when people that are really depressed and have a bad life they want everyone else to be like that. For me is that I rather want everything to happen to me. I don't want others to have a bad life. I mean when my friends have something bad happen I get mad because I feel like they have to be happy, and I just get MAD! and also when someone gets something I sometimes feel like I never get anything and I feel like I am just a sucker that has nothing, whatsover. I mean I also feel like everyone gets everything and is so happy and I can't, but when they get sad I rather want it to happen to me. I don't get myself I think I am a really bad person! and that's why I hate myself with passion. Can you give me an advise.

Answer 1

If you judge yourself by the world around you then you will always be disappointed. Someone will always be better off or worse off than you. Look in the mirror and you will only see yourself. Trust in that person, trust in your instincts and go with your original feeling. Be happy, show love and have the best life you can without comparing it to an imperfect world. And chill, time is the great teacher. Good luck.

Answer 2

You must satisfy your basic needs first before you can move to the next satisfaction:

'Maslow postulated that needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency. Although all needs are instinctive, some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The lower, or basic, needs on the pyramid are similar to those possessed by non-human animals, but only humans possess the higher needs.

The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.'

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow

If you are a kid and crap your diaper, that is shame. If you fail to change some body else's diaper, that's guilt. If you don't search for a way to do that for your self, that's inferiority....read the following:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

The Erikson life-stage virtues, in the order of the stages in which they may be acquired, are:

hope- Basic Trust vs. Mistrust
will- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
purpose- Initiative vs. Guilt
competence- Industry vs. Inferiority
fidelity- Identity vs. Role Confusion
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)- Intimacy vs. Isolation
caring- Generativity vs. Stagnation
wisdom- Ego Integrity vs. Despair

Answer 3

OH my you must be a teenager....... it's okay, your hormones are raging, your emotions are nutty, it is a tough time to get through. Whatever you do or feel, don't hate yourself, love yourself for being you and just realize that everyone goes through the same process, when you feel bad or jealous, go help someone with less than you. You will instantly feel better and will have done something good too.

Answer 4

Try calling 1-800-2326459 http://www.family.org a call; free licensed counseling.

Or, may try learning to meditate: http://www.yogananda-srf.org http://www.easwaran.org

Or, reading "Climb the Highest Mountain," Mark Prophet,
"Watch Your Dreams," Ann Ree Colton,
"Light Is a Living Spirit," O. M. Aivanhov,
"The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?", Free and Wilcock, http://www.divinecosmos.com
"Expecting Adam," Martha Beck.

"I want to have everything happen to me"...maybe "Every once in a while, I will give kindly to another, e.g. tutor a child to read or do sums, or do an extra chore at home without being asked."

kind regards,

j.

Answer 5

You simply haven't accepted your bad side.