what do u do if your mom hurts u physically and emotionally and doesnt listen to anything u have 2 say?

Question

i dont want to be send toa foster home but she tells me stuff like "***** i hope you die"

Answer 1

omg but please hear me out, when you turn 14 if not lalready work a part-time job and save up now! so when your 18 and fed up you can leave and can buy a apartment or something.

Like am 16 now by the time am 20 I won't have to worry just in case.

Answer 2

I wouldnt want to go to a foster home either. Im not sure what state you live in but some states you can become emancipated at 16. Until you can get away from her is there a family member or family friend you can talk too? I doubt therapy is something that your Mother would go into willingly. A Mother who would tell her child under any circumstances they hoped they would die is not a well woman. You have to believe its not you. I dont care if youre rotten to the core. Misbehaved. A bad student. There is nothing a child an do that warrants that type of verbal abuse. If this helps your Mom probably endured worst. Typically most people who are abused tend to be just a little less abusive with their children. Each generation gets better. So a parent who gets caught slapping their child will say atleast I wasnt burning him/her with a cigarette. So not that your Mom is right in what shes doing to you, he probably tells herself atleast I dont tell her I shouldve killed her. I only say I hope she dies. Do you kind of understand? I doubt she would listen if you told her it hurts you. Maybe you should print all the answers out and leave them out for her to read. I dont know where you live? But I would open my door to you in a minute. I live in Los Angeles. I have a 12 year old daughter and had a few kids stay with me due to different circumstances. It tears me up when I hear stories like yours. There is nothing in the world that a child can do wrong that gives a parent a right to lay a hand on them. Or to speak to them in an abusive manner. Just remember no matter what, you dont deserve it. I went through it and it sucks. Living in fear of what mood your parent is going to be in is so damaging. The one thing your home should be is safe. Feel free to email me. I will do whatever I can to try and help you.

Answer 3

either report her and risk going to a foster home (i would) or stay there and let her continue to abuse you.

i know alot of ppl say bad things about foster homes but you can bet that 90% is crap. i was in 4 different foster homes for diff reasons and out of the 4 3 were good and the other one was just kinda okay. no abuse or anything there they just ignored me. better to be ignored by strangers than having your mom call you names and hit you.

you could also go live with a relative if you had one willing to take you in.

i really do know how you feel, my mother was the same way, hence the foster homes, but it does get better with time and it's true what they say....what doesn't kill you makes you stronger ;o)

believe it or not my mother and i now get along and are best friends. you never forget how you were treated but you can forgive


good luck

Answer 4

u need to tell someone at school or another family member right away abuse just not be taken in any means. if you have a family memeber or even a friens you can stay with go there now and contact the police if you have to. a family friend will help

Answer 5

you need to report it, before you aren't able to. Unfortunately your mom is sick and needs help. Just because it gets reported doesn't mean that you will be sent to a foster home, they will make her get the counciling she needs and make sure you are safe

Answer 6

God bless u child. first of all I would get some counseling to help you to find a way to try and help your mother. Try and talk to her about how she makes u feel when she does this. emotionally that will take a really long time to heal. you need to get some help please before u get hurt bad.

Answer 7

NO ONE SHOULD BE HURTING YOU IN ANY WAY. YOU NEED TO TALK TO AN ADULT YOU CAN TRUST,LIKE A TEACHER AND TELL HER OR HIM YOUR FEAR OF GOING TO A FOSTER HOME. YOU REALLY NEED HELP BEFORE SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS. PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE VERY VERY SOON.