my 14 yr old cousin dating a 24 yr old?

Question

Me and my cuz are really close even though Im 5 yrs older then her she tells me everything and I tell her everything.well last night she told me shes go a boyfriend and I was like really so whos tha guy .she goes his name is Dabao, and Im like how you meet threw a friend so I was like how old he is and she like well ur going to kill me his 23.I was shocked im lyke his way to old for you but she say she really like him ,and he really likes her.The guy gave her a cell phone so they can talk and all and bought her perfume set.And I wasn't happy I asked have u guys done anything yet and she like well he has kissed me and touched me but thats it.I want to go tell her mum but I don't want to destroy the relationship I have with my cousin.If anything happened i would feel responsible.How do I make them break up or make her see that this guy is to old for her.

Answer 1

Tell the police. He is a pedofile.

Answer 2

I didn't bother to read the whole sordid story. Point blank, get your cousins head on straight fast. Guys that are older get these little girls into their clutches and do all sorts of bad things. Is that clear?

Tell her parents so they can lock her little butt up at night and if this guy has the stupidity to show up, they should call the police because what he is doing is illegal.

This is becoming a very big problem in the last few years. These creeps can't have a normal relationship with a woman their own age because they have mental health issues. Do something for your cousin before she turns up missing, dead or pregnant.

Answer 3

24, or 23?
Not that it even really makes a difference because that's still too old!
In my opinion at least. Maybe you should meet the guy since you two are so close, and if he seems okay, just keep talking to your cousin and make sure everything is going well. If you don't like him, you should tell someone, even if it is her mom. Your cousin may be angry at you for awhile...but it will probably end up being worth it. She'll understand eventually you were only trying to do what is best for her and look out for her. I hope everything works out. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Tell your cousin the truth. That she is being taken advantage of. That the authorities need to be notified about this guy before someone gets hurt either her or another little girl. Then let her know that YOU are going to notify her parents. Always keep it real with her. At least she will respect you even if she don't really agree with your standards. Your relationship with her may suffer for a moment. However if something really horrible happens you will know you tried to do the right thing.

Answer 5

If both of them r Indians, its perfectly alright.In India marriages takes place even if the gap is 15/20 years.between the two. If they r only Friends there is nothing to worry if they don't convert into relations. Well, of course, if they want to marry the girl must become adult first. Don't ur cousin know that a minor should be careful abt sex? U must advise her to keep check on such activities.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel because your cousin is going to be mad at you without a doubt! She may think you are jealous but if you are as close as you say you are, why don't you talk to her first. Let her know that he is too old for her and that if she doesn't break up with him your gonna tell her mother. Hopefully he doesn't have too much information on her like where she lives ect. This can be dangerous so just don't let it continue whether you tell her mother or not...tell someone

Answer 7

Man im 15 but i think its pretty cool to date a older guy. None the less the man is older than her and should have the brains not to date a 15 year old. Sit her down and talk to her tell her that your going to do it weather she wants you to or not, he could hurt her badly. My cousin was 16 and dated a 36 year old man he got her hooked on drugs and bull **** like that. You need to deff do something about it

Answer 8

He's not a pedophile, actually.

Just a run of the mill pervert.

You NEED to tell her parents before this guy kidnaps her or something. I gotta tell you. A guy in his mid 20s has NOTHING in common with a 14 year old except their parts might fit together.

All he wants is a physical relationship, and he is taking advantage of her.

Answer 9

Maybe he isn't too old for her. Especially nowadays, many people who date and even marry are far apart in age and still have very fruitful relationships. My parents started dating when my mom was 17 and my dad was 24. Although, your cousin and her boyfriend are a different case. Your cousin is probably not matured yet and the boyfriend is more likely matured. Give it time, it probably won't work out and at least your cousin will learn a lesson.

Answer 10

pls tell her parents cause that guy is a very big flirt & it can also be a case of rape cause i believe ur cuz has no idea of her friends & i believe she is 14 means she must be in school & if u complain to her parents even though she may fight with u or she may stop talking to u but atleast being her big sis u saved her from being a fool.

Answer 11

He is way too old for her. Now in Canada I believe the age of consent is 14 (which is ridiculously too low) but she is still a child and he probably likes her because she is a virgin. I am sure she has other wonderful qualities but totally inappropriate I agree with the other people who have posted and check with the police on that.