My neighbor beats his wife?

Question

Is there anything more I can do? My neighbor (downstairs-we live in an apt.) beats his wife. They argue and fight a lot but I hear other neighbors do the same thing the difference is this guy beats his wife. I have heard him shove her into furniture... I can hear her sobbing right now and if I went into our bathroom I could probably make out the words they are speaking quite clearly. Twice I heard her screaming, the way you would if a stranger was trying to murder you and I called 911 (I also called a few other times too) but when the police showed they both opened the door and just said they were sorry for making noise and they were just arguing and when the cops left you could hear her crying and crying. They didn't even try to find out if she is safe. This has been going on ever since she had a baby maybe 9 months ago.

I want to go talk to her when he isn't around but these neighbors and the ppl that live next door to them are very rude to me and my husband (we are Muslims and that is the only reason I can guess for them to be this mean because they were like this even before I ever called 911). Is there anything more I can do? What would you do?

Recording it...that is a great idea. Maybe the police will actually believe me.

I will get in touch with a shelter too.

(((gitanafille)))

Answer 1

You should defenitly report it

Answer 2

I think the idea of recording the violence and playing it for the police is the best idea. The woman is not going to admit he beats her because she is either afraid of his retaliation when he gets out of jail or is financially and emotionally dependent on him or both. Domestic violence doesn't usually start overnight. The perpetrator starts slow by being verbally and emotionally cruel to her, lowering her self esteem until she thinks no one else would ever want her. He then starts to control her bit by bit until she is totally dependent upon him and keeps his secret. I would also recommend you contact child protective services and report the violence and let them know that you are afraid for the baby. He probably isn't hurting the baby yet, but babies can sense the type of tension brought on by domestic violence and maybe they will intervene and let her know the dangers she is putting her child in. Other than these things and calling a shelter for more advice there isn't much you can do. You have shown that you are a caring person by becoming involved. Just keep doing what you are.

Answer 3

FEZ , find out the phone number to the nearest woman's shelter in your area write it down on good size peace of paper and when you know that her husband is not home when she is along and only then slip it under her door.
That way you will be helping her and your rude neighbors will never know that it was you.

Believe me she will think about using it, even if she does not call the shelter for help right away at least she will have the number.

woman to woman you know that she is scare and is afraid to say anything to the police.( she fears her husband)
If you try talking to her she is going to more then likely tell you to mind your own business .
don't take it personal if she tells you that ,often abused woman will be that way , to afraid to except help from others.

Thank you for caring.

Answer 4

You are a good person to try to help. Some couples don't want help and they continue in unhealthy relationships. A women's shelter is a good idea IF SHE WANTS HELP.
Calling the police is good too but they won't get involved if the couple lies to them every time they show up. Also building a friendship with her would be a good idea. I was in an abusive relationship and the violence usually continues to get worse and worse. You're an angel on earth!

Answer 5

Maybe Fez u need to call the woman protection agency and give them the recording coz they are more used to handling such kinda situations.

(((Hugs for caring about neighbours)))

EDIT: Yes sliping a paper is a good idea .. you might put this on the paper :" u may also contact me this way that is by slipping a piece of paper under my door."

Thjis will let u know whats actully going on and help more efficeintly and effectively and know what to tell the police to look for as evidence next time u call them or u call the protection centre".

Answer 6

try talking to the police let them know what your hearing, or contact CPS if he's beating his wife he may start to hit the child. or you can just talk to her, ask her if she needs help? maybe she's stuck with him maybe there is nobody to help her out of there or she has nowhere else to go. now days there are programs for battered women. I'm sure if she was pointed in the right direction it would be easier for her to get out of that place.

Answer 7

I would call a woman's shelter and get advice from them. Maybe someone from there will come and talk to her. Don't give up on her. Keep calling the police if you think she is in danger. Someone must help her. What's with these women who just won't leave. I don't get it. Remember he might hurt the baby, maybe she is protecting it at this point too.

Answer 8

Call the police again and make them listen to you! Tell them what you told us, that's awful! Why would someone do that?

And the fact that you're trying to help her and she looks down upon you because of your religion is awful too! Hope whatever you try works, and thank you for being a good Samaritan.

Answer 9

Bless your heart for caring, but, I think you should just call the police like you have been doing, and, I'm sorry you have neighbors who are so narrow minded as to not like you because you are Muslim.

Answer 10

the baby makes a big deal . its apart of postpartem and alot of couples actually break up after they have a child because they cant take the stress , when a baby is born its all about the baby so the couple forgets how to be in love like they were. alot of women feel gross and dont like their bodies and some blame their husbands. you have done all you can and you are a great person for trying this hard and caring for the well being of someone who is so rude to you .

Answer 11

Since there is a young child in the house, perhaps you could go to Child Protective Services? They have a bit more clout with the authorities, and can make them act on reasonable suspicion. At the least, they will make sure the child is in a safe situation...