I have been merried to my husband for almost 7 years and we've been living in seperate houses for 5. He had a drug habit so I made him leave. I've cought him living with other wimen(two at once) And I've seen him once in this past year. He is currently in prison and is begging me to stay. I really
don't see the point. I don't drink or do drugs of any kind. We are the total opposit. I have no children with him.
2007-12-08 12:53:58 · 17 answers · asked by mommas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See I have four kids from a previous marrage and two are handicaped so the money is tight. does anyone know how to get one cheap?
2007-12-08 13:48:26 · update #1
so technically you havent been with him for most of the marriage. he is a lying a$$hole and now needs you because he's in jail??? umm no get a life with less drama. you will be alot happier. and if you dont have kids, then there is no problem. if he has a drug and drinking problem chances are when he gets out of jail he will continue his old habbits.
2007-12-08 13:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would say 'yes' divorce would probably be your best option.
You don't live together and it sounds like he has moved on a bit and since he is in prison he needs you now because he doesn't have anyone.
You should find someone for you and live your life for you. If drugs and alcohol drove you apart they will most likely be what keeps you a part.
You deserve to have someone with your same interests and that can be there for you ... he hasn't been there for you for at least 5 years it sounds.
Best of luck in your sticky situation.
2007-12-08 20:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain_One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, what ever got you to marry this man ain't there. He burst that dream years ago. So, why haven't you moved on with your life? I agree, I don't see the point, begging you to stay is where, in he cell? This ain't a marriage girl, this is a mirage. Drop the case, move on with your life. I call for a makeover and cocktails! enjoy life, it is a great season to celebrate!
Don't think that because you had a mad choice, you can't find a good man. He is out there, just give yourself the chance.
2007-12-08 21:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Raquel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been living separately, and separate lives for 5 years, then yes, you do need to get a divorce. There is nothing holding you two together but a piece of paper, so end it properly and move on.
2007-12-08 21:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you knew 5 years ago it was time to get out now all you have to do is make it official get the paper work done. Good luck.
2007-12-09 02:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Craig's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you 2 do not have a life to share.
Sometimes - when a person goes to prison, they get desperate - and they reach out to people who they think they can get help from. And .. sometimes .. when they get out .. it can be a different story.
You & he live completely different life styles .. and he cheats.
You have choices.
2007-12-08 21:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you two dont share children I say go. Its not healthy to be tied to him legally. Let him go! Move on, im sure you can fid someone much better, you deserve better. Good luck
2007-12-08 21:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? You don't even have a true marriage, so divorce would be no real change. You're making all the sacrifice, time to upgrade - respect yourself and be safe.
2007-12-08 20:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by lornehart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TAKE A REAL HARD LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU WOULD STAY. SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A LEVEL HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDERS AND I PERSONALY WOULDNT LET THIS GUY BRING ME DOWN. YOU DESERVE A LIFE YOURSELF AND ITS TIME YOU MOVE ON. I WISH YOU THE VERY BEST!
2007-12-08 21:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by shebae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out while you still can , he is not worth the time and you need to move on to find a healthy relationship
2007-12-08 20:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by erin g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋