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My husband don't like oral on me. He never said it but I know because he just don't do it. yesterday he ask why I don't Org-asm during intercourse. I told him that I can't even if I want to. there were times when i get upset because he don't do it on me. Now i feel like I am getting so use to of his habit. I like doing oral on him but he don't. I think my mind stops demanding this thing from him because I know I am not going to get it. we have been married for 6 months now. How can I live with this thing for the rest of my life. I am 6 weeks pregnant. I will hope that my sex drive goes away once I gave birth to my baby. I am stressed. Toys doesn't work for me. What to do. I already talked to him about this. He is not goin to solve this So what do I do.I have my desires and fulfilment also. He is my husband. I am not that kind of person who cheated on anyone. But this is getting crazy. What to do. How to cope with this thing. I know its gotta be some way

I just don't want to beg him for this now. I also have my self respect. I give him oral whenever he wants. But When I asked him he says no. I want him to do it when we get out of shower so he don;t feel like saying that I am smelly or something.

I love him so much And I am not going to leave him on this thing

Answer 1

You need him to understand that you don't feel that he's being fair. Stop giving him what he wants till you get what you want.

But don't just stop, tell him what you're doing and why. When he asks for it, tel him that you're not going to do it because you don't get satisfied. And how can he expect you to satisfy him when he doesn't satisfy you. Tell him you got to give and get, and he's just getting ll the time. So from now on if you don't get you're not going to give anymore.

Other than that I can't tell you to do anything else, because if you really love him, like you say you do, you should be able to talk to him and sort it out. Talk to him and tell him to tell you why he doesn't like it. Perhaps he has a valid reason.

My husband has battled with his sinuses for a long time, and has recently been for a sinus operation. When he's fully healed he won't have any excuses anymore. Then I won't take no for an answer, because it ca be done, he's lust too lazy, and it's easy to make excuses and threaten that I must keep quiet and be happy with what I get. I'm at the point where I don't want anything to do with anything anymore!

But good luck to you!

Answer 2

If you love him,then stop doing him! It may put some stress on you for some time, but this is something that he must understand that this will bring the 2 of you closer together. 1,tell him that doing so brings you to a mental & physical high and enjoyment. It's the same feeling he gets when you do him. 2,something like this may send you to someone else(Male/female) because of something he's not giving(it happends). One night,stand in front of him with nothing on & shaven. Then tell him those two things and walk away.

Answer 3

I would really try to set the mood, dim the lights play soft music, maybe do a little strip tease to arouse him a little. Do this right after a nice warm bath so that you are relaxed and clean. Maybe he will warm up to it and be more open minded. If this doesnt work, then as you're having sex, finger yourself so you reach your orgasm. And also talk to him and let him know how you feel. Tell him how frustrating it is to have sex and not reach an orgasm. Good luck!

Answer 4

Tell him that his oral stops until you get some.

I know it sounds manipulative, but it works. My fiance didn't like to do it either when we first got together. A friend advised me not to give him oral until I get some. Eventually he noticed and asked why he wasn't getting it anymore. I told him why. Now we trade 1 for 1. Neither of us particularly likes giving it (for its own sake...we like pleasuring each other) but we both like to get it so we make sure it's an even trade.

Answer 5

Well probably if you don't want to do toys or want someone other than your husband giving you oral, the next best thing to do si tell him "Either you lick it or you can't stick it" ANd he will lcik I gurantee it. There's no man that will go without knowing all he ahs to do is lcik it. and maybe he will enjoy it too. Bet you he has never done it beore that's why he doesn't do it now. So give him that Ultinatium and he will do it not unless he has someone on teh side.

Answer 6

You need to communicate all this to him. Sometimes man are clueless about the things ladies need (emotionally) in bed. This is an issue. It could become a problem, so you need to addressed this as soon as possible. Most of the times a serious honest talk, can ake a world of difference...good luck..

Answer 7

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Answer 8

you may have to ignore the situation for a while. eventually he might come around. but if it were me which at one time it was, i didn't do him cause he didn't do me. i didn't feel it was fair. so you gotta do what you think will work. there are also lickable kissable massage oils that may get him in the mood for it. you can even withhold sex till he is so horny he will do anything you want. you think? good luck.

Answer 9

If he won't do it to you maybe you should stop doing it to him.as long as you have good hygene there is no reason why he shouldn't do this just to make you feel good esp. if it makes you orgasm.Make sure you are clean and very well trimmed(or shaved bald) and shove his head down there and chances are he won't be able to resist.Make a game of it and dont let him do anything else to you until he makes you happy.

Answer 10

Ask him why.

Some men get a bit weird when their partner is pregnant too.

Also make sure you let him know that you have an increased sex drive right now and that he should be taking advantage of that!