My friend can't date untill she's 16 (she's 13 right now) But she fools around with all the guys and often passes out phone numbers. She likes to hang out with the older kids and She's my best friend.
But everyone can tell that she's going to get hurt one day. And I don't know what I can do for her? Help!
2007-12-08 12:05:25 · 27 answers · asked by ~*Felicity*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have had this problem to. my friend isnt aloud to date until she is 16 and is 13 too. and one day this boy asked her out and i pulled her to the side and said " wait! before you say anything think about what our prophet Gorden B. Hinkley said, " thou shalt not date till we are 16 and single date when we are 18" and then she told the boy ill have to think about" so we both opened out scriptures and read about it and then she called the boy back and tol him about it. yea he was mad and never talked to her again but she didnt get hurt and thats because i helped her. and im really proud of that. i hope i helped. also u should tell your friend that if she goofs off with to many guys she is going to get raped and hurt and that wont be a good thing.
2007-12-08 12:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by juciyjuice_345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you've tried to talk to her about it on your own. And it might not have worked. If you can't find an older person who can be influential in her decisions to talk her out of her behavior, you might just have to let her go ahead and make these mistakes. And be there for her as a friend when she needs you. Hopefully she'll come to her senses before anything dangerous happens. But like I said... if you're supportive as a friend no matter what, she'll appreciate that down the road.
2007-12-08 12:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try your best to stop her!!! You know she is doing the wrong things so be a friend and put your info in. If it gets to the point where she is getting too bad say something to her parents. Might sound like you arent being a friend by doing that but you might be saving her and if she cant see that she really isnt as good of a friend as you thought
2007-12-08 12:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is is there is not much you can do. Any imput to disuade your friend will not be taken well. The best thing you can do is to just be there. Keep special attention to any older people she says anything about. And, if your going to put in anything, try to keep her informed about the safer ways to do things, like meeting in public places and safe sex. Let her know that you care about her and want to see her safe. We can't run our friends lives, much as we would like to when we see bad things on the horizon. We can simply be as much of a friend as we can.
2007-12-08 12:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by dark_angel286473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are referring to sexual acts, then I would definitely try to do all within your power to stop her. First try talking to her about it, if not, you must go to an adult or respected person and inform them. I suggest her school's guidance consoler.
I know that's hard to do, but it has to be done if you really want to keep her safe.
If you're referring to dating and just love in general, just relax and know many teenagers do it. I had my first girlfriend in fourth grade for god's sake! Of course, when the relationship ends, it's going to hurt her. She'll simply have to come to terms with that. Life is not easy, nor is it meant to be. We are meant to go through hell and live through it, only to come out a better person.
2007-12-08 12:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting her learn from her mistakes might sound awful while you just sit there and wait for it to happen, but that sounds like what she needs!! Make sure she knows that you think she is not doing the right thing too though. be a model of the right thing... friends often follow their friends- good and bad!!
2007-12-08 12:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh... to be so young. You're going to have to let her take the path she wishes to take, and let her be hurt and learn her lessons the hard way... just like you will someday. If you try to make her stop, she will push you away. The only thing you could possibly do is plead with her not to ruin her reputation if she hasn't already, and maybe she'll want to change for that reason.
2007-12-08 12:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are lots of mental health answers to this but unfortunately, it boils down to free will. You can try all sorts of interventions - take her on a tour of a home for unwed moms to be, make her an appointment with people who handle adoptions, maybe have her tour the aids department of the hospital...... introduce her to the kids born with aids ..... and many more. but fact remains, that even after you go to all that - she still has the right to say....."outa my face, my life and i'm doing it my way." Unfortunately there is a chance she may never see 16. Sad but true.
How ever it comes down you must remember one thing.....NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY She's right ,,,,, it IS her life.
2007-12-08 12:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by accident 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her make her mistakes. Sit her down talk to her, tell her your worried and scared for her. Thats really all yo ucan do. Maybe she'll listen maybe she won't. If she gets hurt, she'll hopefully learn her lesson and not do it again. If t hings start to get really bad however i suggest you anonomously let her parents know whats going on. It may hurt her, but it'll atleast keep her safe.
2007-12-08 12:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by ConfusedGrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you seem like a good friend ya know sometimes the only way to learn is by learning the hard way. but i see that you care about her so you just need to tell her no!!! tell her that what she is doing is wrong, and that she will end up hurting herself. if she still doesent listen, you should probably tell her parents.
2007-12-08 12:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by screamer45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋