There is this girl, a sister of a friend who is very pretty. My husband in the past has mentioned how he thinks she is very pretty. No big deal. I was just on his computer and saw that he has went on her profile a number of times to look at her pictures. I asked him in a very non obvious manner, and he said he doesnt. I even said, I am glad you don't. he says ofcourse, why would i? My issue is not so much about him looking at her pictures over and over again, but that he lied about it. I say it is because he doesnt want to upset me, or whatever...but is that right? should i be worried that he keeps looking at her pictures? please help!
2007-12-08 11:26:12 · 14 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks guys. I did talk to him about it. He said that it was no big deal. he didnt want to upset me. I told him that no matter what lying is lying and it will make me disrespect him and think he is doing more than just looking at pictures. I dont care if he was just looking because he lilkes how she looks. but if there was more going on in his mind, that is obviously what bothers me. Anyway, my eyes are open now, but we agreed no more lying about anything no matter how small!! ...
2007-12-08 13:32:12 · update #1
I personally would be very worried. Maybe you can find away to let him know you saw the history (pretend you were looking for a site you visited) see how he reacts.
2007-12-08 11:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, if I was in your shoes I would be very upset....it is one thing to look at pictures of women who you don't know but he is looking at someone he has met. I guess it is technically OK since he is just looking but I'd be worried he will get it in his mind to do something about this attraction. If things are the same between the two of you try not to make an issue out of it. He is denying it because he knows it is wrong.
2007-12-08 19:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are the facts of life you obviously haven't learned yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage ruins relationships(moving in is the same)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth if not just
keep believing the lies you hear from
everyone around you.
2007-12-08 19:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should be worried, but moreso because he LIED to your face about another woman.
Get some blocks on the computer ASAP and get the two of you into some marital counseling to deal with this BEFORE it becomes an affair.
2007-12-08 19:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do married people have profile on line?
When you have a husband, a wife, children you don't need to be on MySpace or Facebook, life is suppose to be too busy.
Now enough complaining on my part. Tell him to get over it...yes she is pretty and she's not the only pretty girl walking around.
2007-12-08 19:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...in my opinion yes!...you should worry about that and do something to put things right...its not advisable for him to keep looking at her pictures and the biggest thing...LYING about it...well i think its time you started questioning him directly what was he up to...if he says that he didn't go on her profile then cross question him like...then who went on her profile if it was not you?...i know it does hurt a lot but you gotta muster the courage and do it because otherwise your marriage is in danger and i am sure you wouldn't want that to happen would you?
all the best!
2007-12-08 19:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by *Just Me* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about him just seeing pictures worry if he meets with her or wants to meet with her. Not that he lied he probably knew you would probably get upset about it. SO just keep an eye on him and see what else he does
2007-12-08 19:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why that would upset you, i would me too, but as long as he's just looking and not doing anything else i wouldn't worry.
2007-12-08 19:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I it were me , I would be seeing a big red warning flag going up. He may not be cheating , Yet---but this is certainly the start of something desasterous to your marriage. You need to call him on his lie.
2007-12-08 19:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried and I would voice my opinion. I would tell him that I know you are looking and ask if he is doing more. He will lie, of course, but let him know that you know.
2007-12-08 19:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋