For or against teen parents?

Question

I recently asked a question on here for teen parents to answer for my paper I am writing. I would now like to hear from other people. I want to know how people feel about teen parents.

1) How does seeing a pregnant teen/a teen mum make you feel?
2) Why do you feel this way?
3) Do you, or people you know tend to stereotype teen parents?
4) Do you think they do any less of a job than an older mother?
5) Is anyone on here a mum of a pregnant teen or does their teen have a baby (babies)?
6) How did you react, how did it make you feel?
7) Are you for or against teen parents?

All answers greatly received as you will be helping me out so much with my paper. Thanks to everyone who answers. I want you to be totally honest about how you feel.

Answer 1

1)It makes me wonder a little bit, I always hope that the baby will be well taken care of.
2)Because when you are young its hard to support a baby.
3)I dont because I was a teen mother. I was treated poorly and given dirty looks at stores, ect. it sorta hurt my feelings.
4)I grew up very fast, never drank, never smoked, and graduated
5)I got pregnant when I was 17 not i am 23 and pregnant with my 2nd.
6)I was scared but took on the responsibility immediately
7)Neither. Depends if you are responsible or not

Answer 2

) How does seeing a pregnant teen/a teen mum make you feel? - DEPENDS HOW YOUNG THEY ARE, IF THEY ARE UNDER 16 IT MAKES ME SAD THAT THEY WONT HAVE MUCH OF A LIFE COS THEY ARE BRINGING UP A CHILD SO YOUNG!
2) Why do you feel this way? I'M NOT SURE, JUST SEEMS THEY WILL MISS OUT ON ALOT OF WHAT THEY'RE FRIENDS ARE DOING
3) Do you, or people you know tend to stereotype teen parents? I DONT STEREOTYPE, BUT I KNOW ALOT OF PEOPLE JUST ASSUME THEY ARE GOING TO LIVE OFF BENEFITS
4) Do you think they do any less of a job than an older mother? NO, YOU COULD HAVE A 30 YEAR OLD WOMAN WHO IS A LESS CAPABLE MUM THAN A 16 YEAR OLD, IT DEPENDS ON THE PERSON
5) Is anyone on here a mum of a pregnant teen or does their teen have a baby (babies)? NO, BUT I WAS 20 WHEN I FELL PREGNANT, NOW 21 AND DUE IN 6 DAYS
6) How did you react, how did it make you feel? N/A
7) Are you for or against teen parents? AGAINST, BUT ONLY BECAUSE I THINK YOU SHOULD ENJOY YOUR TEENS NOT BECAUSE I DONT THINK THEY ARE CAPABLE

Answer 3

I am a teen parent, but im gonna tell you how i feel.

1. Myself being a teen parent, i am 17 and married, but if i see really young girls, 13,14,15 years old, it makes me sad, but if they are a good mom to their children, then let it be.

2. Being a mom doesnt mean you have to be older, so if you are young and can do a good job at being a parent, then so be it.

3. i know alot of people that stereotype teen parents. If i see a girl who is treating her baby badly, then she is apart of that stereotype, if not, then i think shes as good of a mother as any other.

4. I dont think so, if you are 15 and treat your baby right, then i think you can do as good, if not even better than an older mother.

5. i am a teen parent, i got pregnant at 16, and me and my then boyfriend got married, i am 17 now, and we have a 1 month old babygirl. and i think i do i very good job at taking care of my little girl.

6. when i found out i was pregnant, i knew what had to be done, and i knew that my life was all about her now, she would come before myself, she gets the things she needs before i get the things that i want.

7. i am against teen parents if they treat their babies badly, but for if they can treat them and give them the love a baby needs.

I am a teen parent. I love my daughter with everything i have, even though im young, ive gotten alot of support and help to know how to care for her the right way. i wouldnt go back and change getting pregnant, she is the best thing thats ever happened to me. I think that people shouldnt judge a teen if they have a baby, but yet if they see a teen that is being a bad parent, then they have the right to stereotype them.

Answer 4

1. That depends. If she's screaming at her kid or beating it, or if the kid looks like it hasn't eaten, then i feel sorry for them. And I feel ashamed for the image that she is portraying. If the child is happy and well taken care of then i feel pride that other teen moms can take care of their children as well as i have have.

2. Personal experience. i hated being stereotyped as a teen mother because of the way other ppl were treating thier children.

3. I don't stereotype teen moms. I've been there. Just about every person i know judged me by a stereotye while I was pregnant and thru the first year of my daughters life.

4. Take a group of fifty women in their mid-late 20's who have kids. Take a group of fifty teen moms. I believe that the stats on who is an abuser and who is nglectful would be about the same.

5. No.

6. n/a

7. If a woman really is ready to have a baby while shes atill a teen I'm all for it. If she's not ready, I'm against it. THere's a lot of grey area there.

Answer 5

How does seeing a pregnant teen/a teen mum make you feel? i thnik i did that and i dont realise why they cant wait it looks stupid and is stupid and i was a teen mum

2) Why do you feel this way? personal experience i know what it like

3) Do you, or people you know tend to stereotype teen parents? alot of people do i dont think i do but in everything there is a division there are the best teen mothers and then there are kids raising kids who dont have a clue how to act and grow up they think it a doll

4) Do you think they do any less of a job than an older mother? sometimes yes because they lack any knowledge or wisdom that comes when u older and the unselfishness, like i said i was teen mum and i could have done things better learnt now

5) Is anyone on here a mum of a pregnant teen or does their teen have a baby (babies)? i had 2 kids by 20

6) How did you react, how did it make you feel? my parets blew the roof with number 1 aat 17 but number 2 at 20 did not care i knew the ropes and was responsible

7) Are you for or against teen parents? AGAINST and i was one

Answer 6

1.) I don't judge a girl if I see she is a teen parent or about to be one. But I don't agree with teens having kids.

2.) I feel they are throwing away there teenage years. I think kids now a days are trying to grow up to fast. They should enjoy there childhood and stop trying to be adults before they are ready.

3.)People I know tend to stereotype teen parents. I try not to because things happen. But sometimes I find myself doing it.

4.) Some teens aren't ready to be a parent and don't deserve there kid(s) but on the other hand some teens are very mature about it. Not all older women are ready for a child either and can be very immature about it. So it can go both ways.

5.) My boys aren't teens yet. My oldest in 2 years old and my youngest is 5 days old.

6.) N/A

7.) Like I said in my first answer I am against it. I won't push what I believe on anyone and won't put you down if you are a teen parent.

Answer 7

1. I feel sorry for her if she has to raise the child by herself if she is not married. Teen men who are not married seem to be irresponsible.
2. Because a child needs both parents and a teen parent will have a lot of problems raising a child by theirself. If there are two parents, I feel bad that they will not get to have all the freedom and get to "sew their wild oats" before they have to settle down. Kids, teen parents, seem to want to grow up too fast and have too much responsibility. And I am afraid they will resent it later in their life.
3. I might, but I accept them for who they are, not their consequenses.
4. As long as they love their child and can care for it physically, emotionally, and spiritually they are doing a good job no matter how old they are.
5. My girls are just past their teen years and do not have babies.
6. I would be supportive of them.
7. I am not against anyone. I feel that teen parents are unfortunate in their circumstance. They have a tough road ahead. It is hard enough when you are married and have a stable job, and by this I mean the husband has a good job so the mother can stay home and take care of the baby and they can afford the necessities to live.

PS. I think all people who are having babies should wait to have them until they are happily married so they have 2 people there to raise the child.

Answer 8

1/2. I feel sorry for her because she has lost part of her childhood, and because, unless the father is old enough to really have a good job, she/they are going to have a rough time, financial-wise. I focus on the father having a good job, because the mother will not have the time for a full-time job. Taking care of the baby is a full-time job. I also feel like slapping some sense into her, but I know that, at that point, it's a little late.

3. I stereotype them (right or wrong) as irresponsible children.

4. I think they will love their children just as much as an older mother, but I also think they won't have the financial and emotional resources to raise their children as well as an older mother. There is much more to raising children than just love.

5. Not me.

6. n/a

7. I am against teen parents (see answer 4).
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Answer 9

I am absolutely AGAINST teen parents. Why don't they stay at home and try and be with their families. Instead, they go off shacking up with their boyfriends and having illegitimate children. What about your education? Do you not care about your education? What are you getting back from being pregnant when you're 17 or 18? Nothing, besides a baby you can barely take care of, and people in the town and in your own family denigrating you for your stupid mistake. Also, having abortions after your boyfriend getting you pregnant? That's great, all of you. Act like it's the baby's fault. It's your fault, not the baby's! So why do you murder an innocent? You do know that abortion is sucking the brains out of the fetus, and then throwing the body in a trash can? Babies really deserve that treatment for your dumb mistake. All of the aborted babies could have great lives, and even change the world. If you don't want the baby, then give it up for adoption. But by having an abortion, you're committing murder. Try comparing that to all of you anti-death penalty people. You're against killing convicted criminals, but you're all for murdering innocent children. And don't make the claim that unborn fetuses aren't alive, because they have brains, and their hearts beat. Don't make that up.

Answer 10

Here goes:

1. I try not to judge others. Who knows that person's life story? And, frankly, I look much younger than I am, so I also realize that I might be looking at a youthful 24 y.o. That said, I think teenagers have alternatives when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, and keeping the baby is not the best choice for most.

2. Parenting is tough, and it takes a certain amount of stability - financial and emotional - that few people can attain before they're in their 20s. If you're not yet an adult, how you possibly be a parent?

3. I'm not sure if I stereotype teen parents. A teen parent at my church is just a young parent with his or her child at church. But seeing parents behaving like teenagers often strikes me as off. If they're swearing, not paying attention to their kids, etc., that strikes me as problematic. But that's not a function of age ... I'd think it was just as inappropriate if a parent in his or her 30s was doing the same.

4. Again, it's very hard - and unwise - to judge. I know a 20 y.o. with a daughter the same age as my son. The 20 y.o. is, in many ways, a far more natural, capable mom than I was when I took my son home. She'd spent lots of time caring for her younger siblings ... I'd spent lots of time in graduate school. I was overwhelmed by how tough it was, while she'd left a grueling and poorly paid job to be at home with her kiddo. So she has strengths that I lack. But then she is 20, not 14.

5. No.

6. NA

7. I'm supportive of any parent trying to do his or her best by their child. But, in general, I think it's less than wise for a young teen to choose to try to parent his or her child. There are alternatives, and I think young people who find themselves facing an unplanned pregnancy should consider their options.