I ate my moms chocolate, and now she is mad at me. I have a problem controlling myself when there is sweet stuff in the house. she knows i am working on this, but she is mad at me still.
I feel like she doesnt understand me
what do i do
2007-12-08 09:38:13 · 13 answers · asked by Whatupdawg 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
SEE YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND EITHER. SHE'S MAD AT ME CUZ I CANT CONTROL MYSELF, BUT I CANT AND IT ISNT MY FAULT.
I HAVE DEPRESSION WHICH DOESNT HELP EITHER. ITS NOT MY FAULT I HAVE A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE
2007-12-08 09:56:53 · update #1
I understand you! I know what it's like to have an eating compulsion to sweets. I guess your mom doesn't (sorry). Tell her that you didn't mean to hurt her, it wasn't personal. Offer to replace the chocolate. If you want to take a chance on telling her more about your feelings, tell her it's like being an alcoholic. If there is alcohol in the house, it's hard for an alcoholic to resist, it's a real driving force. A chemical phenomena of the brain. It's a scientific fact. I hope she will understand you better. If not, then get a bag your own things you can keep in your room to eat when you need to. Learn about things you can do to curb the feelings, and find healthier foods that can satisfy you. Here's a good place to start. (Share information with your mother so she understands you didn't mean to be insensitive to her).
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/problems/binge_eating.html
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I'm with you. The best answer to bad feelings is a good piece of cake or pie. People that don't have the compulsion and the depression don't understand. I wish your mother would listen to your words and feelings. But she has an idea in her mind of what you should be like and she won't budge (sounds like). Be glad for yourself that your drug to feel better is food, not heroin or something. Your mom may not give you credit for that, but people who know do. It's frustrating when the person that should love and understand you doesn't. I wish there was a button you could push to help her understand that it's not your fault. Logically she should say, 'I love you, and i know you have a compulsion that is hard to control. We'll work through this together" **hugg**. But people, even mothers, aren't always always logical. Take her with you to a doctor and maybe she'll listen to that kind of authority.
2007-12-08 09:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are sorry and mean it. Don't tell her anything else yet. It will sound like you are trying to make excuses.
Later, days later, explain to her that you have a problem with having sweets around. You can't control yourself and all you can do is think about the sweets. It would be better for you if there wasn't any in the house. Let her know the ways that you are trying to control this.
Let her decide what she is going to do about it. If she decides to keep sweets, then it'll be up to you to figure out how to control yourself. Good luck. I can relate and understand :)
It's not just will power. There is research that refined sugar causes an addiction and eating refined sugar only causes us to want more refined sugar. Much like a drug. You might want to use the same strategies as drug addiction.
2007-12-08 09:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she mad cause you ate chocolate, I think she's mad for you eating HER chocolate. Weather it be a $200 piece of jewlery or just some chocolate it's hers and should'nt be taken. Make it up to her by buying her another box of chocolate and maybe a little something extra - or maybe even just spend a little more time with her.
As for your problem controlling yourself I would suggest really not having sweet stuff in your house - I understand it was your mothers and not yours but try to substitute chocolate or other candies with fruit - there was a study that people with a sweet tooth were satisfied with fruit because of it's sweet taste. I know it doesn't sound extremely appealing but my dad did it and says he hasnt eaten any candy or chocolate in over a month.
2007-12-08 09:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Unnamed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the same ammount of chocolate you ate. This will help you to control your craving since you'll buy back the chocolate you ate - so eventually you won't be able to afford it any more, and so it might help you control yourself (kinda give you that extra push to save your money, and the chocolate, for when you really need some).
But for now, you simply must buy back the chocolate for your mom, since it was hers anyways.
In the case of a depression, or chemical imbalance, please contact your family doctor right away.
2007-12-08 09:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Pat Vienneau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can replace chocolate, but you can never replace your daughter.
If I were you I'd tell your mom that you were sorry, and let her know that Chocolate is something you can replace the company makes more than one, and be sure & let her know that she can never replace you.
it's just chocolate & seriously... It's not that big of a deal.
2007-12-08 09:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Miah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise not to do it in the future- and stick to it. That's all!!! This is not a big deal, your mom just wants to see you have some self control.
2007-12-08 09:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her new chocolate, then suggest a psychologist or alternative counseling if the problem continues.
2007-12-08 09:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize and find a way to control yourself. Or you could always get your own stash of chocolate.
2007-12-08 09:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I woud just tell her the truth, and say that your REALLY trying to improve.
Also, next time you see something sweet, eat something else that you know you won't get in trouble for eating.
:)
2007-12-08 09:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go and buy her some more chocolate and when you give it to her say you are sorry that you ate her chocolate.
2007-12-08 09:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by LADY WITH AN ATTITUDE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋