ok, my ex best friend and i never fought or talked anything out. we just kinda tolerated anything we did. but i have a friend and hes not my best friend, but one of my close friends. we have known each other since 5th grade and now were in highschool. we fight a lot, but things always seem to work out. (usually cuz i apologize first). hahaha, anyways. dont you think thats just normal?
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2007-12-08 08:25:34 · 35 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ya...its normal...wat would life be like if everyone agreed with everything people said..everyone would be the same..and boring!!!
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2007-12-08 08:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by myipodmylife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Human relationships all contain a certain amount of conflict, which is basically when two people want different things. There isn't anything wrong with the conflict, just how it is handled. If you have a healthy give and take, conflicts don't have to become fights, and you can also always agree to disagree on many things.
My very best friend and I see a lot of things really really differently...but we are there for each other and we support one another. We have fought about a few things, when our own needs got ahead of the other one.
I think a good friendship can withstand a few fights here and there, that is...heated arguments or cold shoulders, taking some time away from that person to get perspective. Not so sure about knockdown dragouts. A key thing about friendships is that you realize that to you, this person is not disposable, and whatever the situation, it is worthwhile to work things out, apologize, and forgive each other. Both people should be willing to do this equally to keep the friendship on an even keel. If one person is always the one who comes crawling back, I would say this isn't a very mutually nurturing friendship, maybe more of a mentoring situaton where one has to put up with the other and that is okay for whatever reason. I have several people in my life that will never know my deepest secrets and I put up with wayyyy more from them than they do from me. But it's part of my commitment to those people to be a friend to them, for their benefit, even if I get little in return. It's fine because I have other friends that I am more mutual with....and also there is a bottom line of crap that I'm willing to take from anyone, including a person who needs a friend more than they are able to keep one.
2007-12-08 08:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, perhaps there is a little tension because it is very difficult to be close close friends with 2 people at the same time. I had this same situation when I was a teenager (with 2 friends). 2 of us were usually arguing with each other, leaving the other stuck in the middle.. things always worked out, we have remained friends for years. Tell your friend he needs to apologize once in a while just to even things out.... Good Luck!
2007-12-08 08:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by chulita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound like I'm implying anything..but is there some sort of maybe 'romantic tension' between you and the new best friend? I assume you're female...I dunno, sometimes unrealized-tension can cause a lot of fighting...and if not...some friendships do contain a lot of fighting...I had a friend I was real close with but we fought like cats and dogs every time we saw each other..not sure why..just how it was..
2007-12-08 08:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Yuka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. Me and my best friend were in the same position as you now. Best friends since 6th grade, never fought until high school. That's because you change and grow up a little then.
2007-12-08 08:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by SmittyT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the kind of fighting. Physical fighting (violence) is never OK. But healthy disagreement is just fine, as long as you don't try to really hurt the other person with your words. Agreeing to disagree is totally normal.
2007-12-08 08:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there anything else realavent in your life? If you spend your life stressing about how your going to fight that day your wasting that day.
do something positive with your time and with your friends. By the way there is no such thing as a best friend. A friend is a friend not one is any better than the next.
2007-12-08 08:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lori F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not always going to agree to everything with your friends. It's completely ok to disagree. As long as you are still able to communicate and get over your disagreements, that the sign of a true friendship.
2007-12-08 08:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you dont fight, you cant possibly be that close, becuase when people tell eachother everything, there are going to be disagreements. what makes a friendship mean so much is that when stuff does come up you can tell the truth, and then just step back, look at the situation and realise that nothing is worth losing them.
2007-12-08 08:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY NORMAL. He's more like family to you at this point. How many people actually live together without disagreeing on things sometimes? We are ALL different with different ideas and opinions and now that you are both older, you are going to clash every once in a while. It's okay.
2007-12-08 08:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal. You cant agree on everything and if you did that would be one boring friendship now wouldnt it. As long as you guys make up and realize that your friendship is the most important thing fighting or not agreeing is normal
2007-12-08 08:29:05 · answer #11 · answered by Crysta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋