recently i hurt someone very close to me. we have been together for years, and through time, we ended treating each other not so good. in the end i did something very hurtful to this person and i dont know what to do to make the situation better. i love this person very much and i want to still be with them, but i dont know what more i can say or do about the situation. now i have to move over 200 miles away and im scraed of what will happen to us. what should i do?
2007-12-08 07:38:02 · 12 answers · asked by tj573 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave them alone & let them come to terms with there own hurt .and you well i guess your hurting to yep ? if so you deserve it
2007-12-09 05:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by bob f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant love this person very much if you've done something so hurtful to them. you knew exactly how hurtful you were being when you done it so ive no real sympathy for you. just because youve had a rocky relationship in the past does not provide any justification as to why you have done this mean thing. you cant say or do anything to make it better - things dont disappear and no doubt this person will never forget it and will no doubt not love you as much as before. if you have to move away all you can do is hope for the best and the pair of you sit down and think about your relationship - is it actually worth saving? can it really last a long distance? on the other hand maybe they could relocate with you and you can both try and have a fresh start.
2007-12-08 07:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by charlie glue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you really regret what happened between you too. however, i think saying sorry over and over again will only make things worse as the word loses meaning after a while. If it was me i would try and explain why you did it and that you would like to make things better between u. It will take a while for this person to trust you but it will come in time. Sometimes leaving them to heal on their own for a while is best so they can come to terms with what happened and get over it. But if you cant wait that long try and do activities together like the pictures and create new happy memories to push the bad one to the back of their mind. I wouldnt keep bringing it up once you have aoplogised. Actions are stronger than words.
Good luck! xx
2007-12-08 07:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rufu99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not love you feel for this person it is the attachment to the drama of treating each other not so good that you are addicted to. That is why you are acting hurt and worried about how you hurt them. It is the dance you choose to dance with this person. When you finally move on and find a healthy relationship you will look back on this and realize it was not love. All you will do is get back together and torment each other again. That is not love. If you love someone you don't hurt them you treat them kindly and they treat you kindly. Check you self before you wreck yourself.
2007-12-08 07:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by David F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, it isn't about what you do or say, it's going to be about them and what they will do or not do. You took a risk when you hurt them and vice versa.
You can both get over it, but forgetting is the hardest part, especially when it's so painful. The both of you have to want it, you are taking a risk moving away.
You can also be scared all you want to, it won't stop the "us" from becoming a "has been." Talk to her/him and find out what they want.
2007-12-08 07:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you love someone, don't hurt them.
You messed up, now you have to pay for it. You can't expect the person to just "get over it." It doesn't happen like that and takes many years to rebuild trust.
Just move, break up and go your separate ways.
2007-12-08 07:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send one forgive me letter to the person asking for friendship if the person doesn't response back then move on with your life you tried to make amends and there is nothing else you can do but just stay away; Time heals all wounds
2007-12-08 07:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what you did and how hurt they are. If you are truely in love with them then give them space, the heart is stronger then the mind and you will be together
My ex did that for me, and inspite of texing her regularly, in the end I appreciated her approach, even though I was dumped and it was hell for months, but I feel much better and am back to myself
2007-12-08 07:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Fool to my self 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on....I'm guessing that's what the OTHER person did.
Consider it an expensive lesson learned.
2007-12-08 07:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there is actually much you can do, but I'd start with apologizing and see where that lands you.
2007-12-08 07:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋