I have been married for over 15 years and for the past 5 years or so fill my wife has lost most of the attraction towards me. She never complements me regarding looks or how i dress or anything. She very seldom ineciates love making and when and if she does it seems like she just is doing it to fill a obligation or duty. I did fianally ask her this morning if she still finds her husband attractive ? when i walk into the room or she sees me , do i still light her fire, ????? She said that sexaully, she is not. I am having a hard time dealing with this and i dont know if she has falling out of love with me. I strongly beleive that she has. I am allways complementing her and rubbbing her back, her feet, brushing her hair, saying she looks so nice and that i love her very much every day. I dont here my wife say ,, i love you dear very much anymore. My wife had an affair about 5 years back and i still fill that they may still have some contact or talk or e-mail but not sure. ANY THOUGHTS
2007-12-08 06:48:38 · 11 answers · asked by danomanfishing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she may not be cheating on you..... yet. it sounds like she got bored with the marriage afew years back - hence the affair and things haven't really changed since. it was a big step to stay together after the affair to be honest.... i mean what's been the point???? there sounds like there's nothing left between you two anymore. don't waste the next 15 years... you need to both find other people.
2007-12-08 06:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by november_special 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where there is smoke there is fire. It's just that kind of women dude. Come on...it is an affair and you know it in your gut. And stop rubbing her back and crap...why do we stupid guys do that when they have no problem cheating behind our back.
Don't do anything you'll regret later - like pleading, etc. You are a stud and any woman would take you. Tell yourself that every day..every minute until you get your confidence up.
Then kick her to the curb...
2007-12-08 14:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Delay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will really have to confront her with your feelings and your suspicions. You need to know where you stand and what the issues are. Then you will have choices. For the last 5 years you have been in a passionless relationship and for whatever reason, you are suffering emotional homicide.
2007-12-08 15:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you being so nice to her is sweet and shes taking advantage of you and u just need to divorce and find someone better. Besides she cheated on you. Good luck!
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2007-12-08 14:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can seriously consider whether you want to commit yourself to this forever. It could've been longer than 15 years now that you ask this.
2007-12-08 14:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lelar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion ..:( if u cheat 1 time u wil do it the 2nd 3rd and 4th time and so on ...i am sorry ..if she really loved u she would act more nice with u ...but that is my oppinion ... ! i might not be right !
2007-12-08 14:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by n0sleep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to marriage counseling together and get this sorted out.
2007-12-08 14:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is buy the most freakest sex toys and blow her mine..SHE WILL LUV IT!
2007-12-08 14:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by tipzy28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you think that she doesnt love you and asks whats wrong. girls love sensitive and funny mean. well, at least i do.
2007-12-08 14:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a threesome. you, your wife, and another guy.
2007-12-08 14:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Adam S. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋