Should I get a copy of the bill to see if my husband is talking to another woman?

Question

This is a follow-up question. My husband met a woman on a business trip she lives about 2 hours from us. However he asked how far she lives from an amusement park. When I confronted him about the conversations he became very irrate. He accused me of being overly jealous. I found out he went dancing with a group of co-workers on the business trip & danced with her. He assured me they've only spoken on the phone 3 times & he stated I can check his phone whenever but I noticed the call log has been erased. Should I ask for a detailed bill from the phone company & confront him about it. He leaves on another business trip in Jan. I said I would go & he got upset! He said he's not a 2 yr old. He offered for me to meet her. I have never been jealous. I just find his attitude suspicous especially since he never mentioned her until I started asking. So since I can't go on the trip should I request a detailed bill from the phone co. & confront him if I find anything?

If I check the bill and find nothing then I won't even mention it. But if I do then I will definitely find a way to go on that trip!

Could this be his way of showing there is something wrong or missing in our relationship?

Answer 1

i would, even though he probably is going to get really mad. you still have the right to know.

Answer 2

I would defintely get that bill! Girl he is getting mad for a reason - the guilty wheel will sqeaked the loudest!!!! The erased call log after telling you to check it - he was erasing his steps... backtracking... covering his tracks... Why would he talk to this woman on the phone? What reason does a married man have talking to another woman on the phone or even dancing with her?? He is interested point blank! Since she does live 2 hours away there only communication right now would be the phone and the internet. Why in the hell would you want to met her?? Do you know why he suggested that? Because he knew you would say no.... it makes him feel better... get the phone bill BEFORE he leaves on the business trip.. and also be prepared that he may have covered those tracks also.. your dealing with a smart cheat, but your going to have to be smarter... be sneaky.. you'll get your answers :)

Answer 3

I think you should definately request a detailed bill from the phone company. That will be the only way you'll know for sure if he's telling the truth (which I highly doubt) about the frequency of their phone chats.

As for his upcoming trip.. His reaction to you mentioning going with him, seems very suspicious. I can understand that it would seem like you only want to go, so you can keep an eye on him.. BUT if he's really not doing anything wrong, it shouldn't matter, because there'd be nothing for you to see. So, the fact that he doesn't want you to go, seems to me like he has other plans that he doesn't want you there to interfere with. I assume these other plans have something to do with the other woman..

They may not be "messing around" (yet), but there's definately something strange going on.. or he wouldn't be acting the way he is.

Answer 4

If you get the bill and find out that he has not been calling her, will you feel any better? I'm sure you will suspect that he has been using a friend's number to call her. It seem you trust is already broken and a telephone bill will do nothing to change things. I actually have had my own phone bills checked out of wrong suspicion. Nothing came out, but our relationship did not improve. It deteriorated because I was so hurt and disappointed.

Answer 5

Either he is planning on cheating or he has already...the real question is what will you do when you get the proof you want? Do you have a plan in place? Will you stay with him? Dump him? You should get this straight in your head so you know what to do and how to process the information should it be true. My experince has shown that when someone is as defensive as he is, he is hiding something...what he is hiding may make you sick when you find out so get prepared for some shocking news...as I said in the first sentence it sounds like he has or is planning on cheating...

Answer 6

Blimey, all these other respones appear to come from very bitter peherople, that happened to a "friend of them".
Have you forgot trust??
If he insists there is nothing happening, offers for you to meet her, he is obviously trying very hard to assure you so be assurred. Checking the phone bill is not an option as when you find nothing, which is possible, you will feel worse.

Answer 7

normally i would say to trust him...but if he has never acted like this before...something is defintely going on. Something similar happened to me...except it was my husbands co-worker...she would call him in the middle of the night..so one day she left him a voice mail and I checked it...saying that she wanted to get something out of her system before the school year was over(my husband is a teacher).....oh you better believe i called that bit*h up and told her to stop being a coward...and to stay the f*ck away from my husband or she'll end up floating up river....I then confronted my husband....and almost served him divorce papers....It was the fact that he betrayed my trust and wasnt man enough to tell me...I had to find out for myself

Answer 8

Yes I would get a copy and see what is on there. Something is up since he keeps getting mad at you. I would call the woman and talk to her. You are justified to want to know what is going on. He was not forthcoming with information until you asked. Find out what is going on.

Answer 9

Check the bill and if he was telling the truth, forget your suspicions. Even a secure women can feel insecure sometimes if her hubby acts different than usual.

Answer 10

I would. You can usually get them online. I have alltel and can pull mine up. I would also say that if you have nothing to hide then why cant I come?

Answer 11

Call him on his bluff and say "yes, I would love to meet her. She seems like a really nice person."