how to leave an unhealthy relationship?

Question

where do you get the strength, when this person has become your prozac, when you are addicted, when you call 20 times in a row even when you know they won't answer, how do you get out of a situation where you are used and abused, how do you get out with dignity, sense of self, and worthfulness still in tact? how do you become whole again?

Answer 1

Go stand in front of a mirror. Talk to yourself. Go over all the abuse. Watch your face. See the hurt. Go over all your behavior. Ask yourself, "Why are you afraid to end it? Is being alone worse than this? Do you want more of this?" Probably not. Make up your mind to stop whatever you do that keeps the door open.
That's the first step. Becoming whole will take some time.
The sooner you start, the quicker that can happen. Hug!
C. :)!!

Answer 2

It will take a strong support system and determined self will to be able to walk away from this codependent, toxic relationship which is as destructive as any prozac/drug addiction. Before you strike out on your own it's important to get your ducks in order so you won't fall back into the trap once you're free. Do an online search of what codependency and toxic relationships mean so you are aware of what you have gotten yourself into. To return to a sense of self worth, dignity and wholeness you will need professional help. Research where those community resources are and start that process so it's in place when you leave. Family & friends can only help so much and they've probably been on the roller coaster with you at great personal expense already so don't burn out with them as your only source of help. There are shelters for abused women and their kids that can give you safe and secret housing temporarily. I went through similar circumstances so I know you can do it to if you prepare yourself like your life depends upon it, which it really does you know.

Answer 3

Getting out of it will give you back your dignity, sense of self and feeling of worth. You only THINK you lack all of those things right now because you've lost yourself to the relationship. The ONLY way to get it back is to walk away. Once you're out of the situation, slowly but surely you'll be reconnected with the real you.

It'll be hard...but so is the situation you're in NOW. You've GOT to choose the lesser of two evils.

And remember...just like breaking any addiction...you've got to do it cold turkey. That means holding fast to the "No Contact" rule. When you're a recovering alcoholic...you can't have even one drink...when you're a recovering junkie, even one fix will send you back into a tailspin...it's the same with relationships.

Answer 4

Girlfriend my heart bleeds for you because I know what that is like and boy is it a trail, you have too wean yourself off the guy. Start with not spending so much time with him, then work on not calling so much, find something you love too do and dive right in head first, like painting, ceramics, making jewelry or taking pictures. Then you'll begin too feel strong standing alone and in no time he'll be a thing of the past, it takes time first find a hobby, good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

sounds like the person is ur crack/heroin which is making u sick u need to go cold turkey and get out. Prozac or similar drugs may be able to help u thru it.

Answer 6

Pack your bags and go. You become whole again by being just fine on your own.

P.S. Very poetic phrasing of your question. You should write music.

Answer 7

Professional help, sounds like your have an obsessive personality.

Answer 8

I dont really call 20 times a day....,

Answer 9

give up
move on
get emotional support