Hi: I am male nearing mid forties. I am not separated though do not have any physical contact with spoouse. I masturbate almost every night and on weekends during the day when I am bored and alone. It is just ridiculous. Maybe this can reduce my alertness, focus and concentration, I doubt
2007-12-08 05:27:59 · 29 answers · asked by an Asker 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
All of the answers were of good taste. Thank you all. There was such a huge response. When I lie down to sleep at night. I am unable to sleep immediately. During that void period of lonliness, dirty thoughts creeps in. For sure I should lie down only when I feel really sleepy. I should keep positive and stay focussed.
2007-12-08 07:42:04 · update #1
I wouldn't worry about it unless you are actually staying in the house rather than taking friends up on invites or going to work. When it starts to really affect your life, then seek pro help.
2007-12-08 05:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by christina g 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Judas Priest! all you people who have answered this question are crazy. I can't believe some of you have actually told this guy that he needs to continue doing the thing that he came to all of us to help him fix.
No you should not continue masturbating and it is possible to control.
If you think about it, you need to think dirty thoughts in order to masturbate. As a man thinks, so is he.
the guy who said if you don't use it you'll lose it.
What a crock of crap. the human body will produce sperm and will work just fine when the time is right to use it.
the world will tell you that self manipulation is OK but you can actually create problems for yourself with future relationships. you will be able to achieve an orgasm only if you masturbate and not if you are making love to a lady. I read that in a Psych book that my wife had.
it's mind over matter dude. Just stay in control and work on a new relationship with a good lady.
2007-12-08 14:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by thedadof7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is perfectly normal for some men with higher-than-average levels of testosterone to have sex (solo or otherwise) on a once-a-day basis. Doing it at night shouldn't affect your alertness, focus, or concentration. Extra sessions during the day on the weekend could have this affect, however. Try to find another activity that engages your mind or body - exercising, going for a walk, or engaging in a hobby of some sort - for your weekends.
2007-12-08 13:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you and your spouse have physical contact? While masturbation may be physically what your body needs, maybe you are also longing for affection that you are not getting as well.
You should consider seeing a marriage counselor. Masturbating is normal, but when anything starts to interfere with your everyday activities, that is how you know it is out of control.
2007-12-08 13:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by mrr86 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not try doing it with the misses?
If your married you guys should be going at it. Talk to her about your problems and listen to hers.
If your marriage is that bad,seek counseling or just divorce. Why go through life miserable and not having sex?
Sounds like you're in a bad relationship/marriage.
Hope things get better.
2007-12-08 13:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Janey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello, And thank you for your honesty. Masterbating invites
wicked spirits into your home and is the gateway to unlocking
other types of sin in your life. I masterbated for many years
and for one if you are male of female your genitals loose
sensation to interact in intercourse.and also being married that can cause problems because you will be desensatzied
and will take the passion out of it. That was a stronghold in my life because if you have nothing more to do but sin and masterbate yourself where is the room for worshiping a Holy God. Personally i realized that those kinds of things makes your relationship between you and Jesus hard. He never leaves us nor will He forsake us, but promised us he would be there to the end of this earth. It is sin that makes us ashamed, and thst shame pulls us away form His presents. But He is a forgiving God. If you stop doing it and go to God with a repentive heart he is faithful to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrightousness. So my brother i can tell you all about masterbation. But I can also tell you there is restoration. You made the first step by admitting now confess
it to the Lord and let him have it. He will deliver you and make you whole. He did it for me. God bless you and you home and family in the Name Of Jesus Christ.
2007-12-08 14:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
People are rude these days .... =/
ignore them ..
its ok to masturbate :) there is no problem in it... just dont do it everyday ... try to focus on other things, like reading, drawing, writing stories or songs, trying something new.. like planting a garden.. buying a new pet.. just to be busy ..
;) hope i helped
2007-12-08 13:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am on a variety of drugs that make jerking off impossible.You can get your doctor to prescribe an antidepressant.That will do it.
2007-12-08 14:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by vinny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy. Find a hobby that engages your time. The idle mind really is the devil's workshop.
2007-12-08 13:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's healty for the mind, or else you would be a horny distraction in public. It is normal, just limit it to once a day.
2007-12-08 13:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by FoeShiz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋