Long story short, one of my husbands close friends told us that my cousin"Joe" said nasty lies about my husband and I. I know Joe said it because he said details that would apply. Such as when we lived with Joe for 3 weeks we did not pay him (lie). Joe said that my husband and I are irresponsible which is another lie and so on. Lie after lie. He is a cocaine addict and talks about everyone and tonight he is having a party for his mom at his house. We do not want to attend because I don't appreciate his lies. I want to confront him so bad but I gave my husband my word that I would not. What should I do about the party and the confrontation. This is really bothering us. I hate being around liars and back stabbers. All my hubby ever did for him wqas get him a job, lend him money etc. and this is the appreciation that we get.
2007-12-08 05:16:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We stayed with him untill our apartment was ready and we gave him $ 300
2007-12-08 05:25:49 · update #1
This is typical addict behavior. Cocaine does really sad things to people's minds. In order for them to remain an addict, they NEED to blame all their life problems on someone else because it feeds their excuse for keeping on doing the drug. Sad to say, but it is more of the drug talking then him actually talking, if you know what I mean. If everyone else knows he is an addict as well, then don't worry one bit - your actions as kind and considerate people will speak louder volumes then his sorry lies. At the party - if you MUST attend, just greet him and make small talk BRIEFLY, then go about visiting with others. Unfortunately, he's made his own bed and now has to deal with the consequences of possibly losing the both of you as good friends. HOWever, when he comes to a point in his life where he is ready to kick the habit, be there then, to offer him all the support in coming back to reality :-)
2007-12-08 05:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dana C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like the other fella said this is typical addict behavior - unfortunately addicts do not live life on lifes terms and if the truth be known you'd be completely wasting your time giving this fella a pull about what he said,because he will either deny it, or he will become enraged and quite frankly you will cause yourself and friends more trouble and embarrassment than what it is worth - fact is you know the truth and so do your friends - Even when this fella decides to stop taking cocaine he will then have to deal with the issues what made him take it in the first place
2007-12-08 06:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by TREVOR Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin someone else's party for this kind of stuff-go be polite at the party and leave-no need to confront him-everyone already knows he is a lier and a coke addict
2007-12-08 05:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So don't go to this party of his.
If he doesn't want to behave like a rational human being, then you have no obligation to have any sort of relationship with him whatsoever.
Just cut him out of your life until he decides to behave a little more decently, (which, as long as he is still on coke, isn't bloody likely......)
Besides, who cares what he says? Anyone who really knows you, or really matters in your life, ought to know not to take him seriously. The whole reason gossip is able to spread, is that people take other people seriously whom they shouldn't. Stop listening to gossip.
Good luck,
~WOMBAT
2007-12-08 05:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should confront him & I also think it's not a good idea you two go to the party either. People will talk crap, he said, she said, etc. It's better to be the bigger, more mature person about it. My best advice is to ignore it & if it bothers you that much, then cut him out of your lives & MOVE ON.
2007-12-08 05:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that are addicts do all sorts of hurtful things. It goes along with the territory. Just let it go and stop polluting your life with this person.
2007-12-08 05:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have said it-------He is a COCAINE ADDICT, you cannot win, So the best way is to avoid him ,till he gets cured from --
Normally , persons who are addicted to drugs , will make up all kinds of excuses, to prove they are not lying.
2007-12-08 05:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's as bad as you say he is, everyone else must know it, too and won't pay any attention to what he says. Don't worry about it so much.
2007-12-08 06:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people dont get it...I'm not one to hold things back...but when I'm around my intolerable sister in law...I have to...for my husbands sake
2007-12-08 05:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird.........your hubby got him this and gave him that but YOU TWO had to live with him?? hummmm confuseing!
Why not not go the party.
2007-12-08 05:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋