i need help! i have 2 kids. my husband left me 1 year ago and now i hve no money! i havent been paying my bills and the electric company will be shutting it off soon. my mother wont let me stay with her because she has no room in her house. My kids are 10 and 7. i really need help. i will not be homeless and live on the streets!! i dont know what to do!! please help me!!
2007-12-08 04:57:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sell your computer and rent a room
2007-12-08 05:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am almost in the same position, But I have an aunt and uncle who help pay my rent "for now" Do not go on the internet to those sites that say they will help you. I never got help. They promised and I never got the check. Then when I did get a check it bounced anyway. There are alot of cruel people out there. What state do you live in? Have you tried a near by church. Now is the season where they do have some money to help. I live in Illinois and I met a lady who helps point you in a direction, but I found going back to school wasn't as easy as they made it out to be. I have a 21, 12, 3 and a 2 year old by myself too. I am trying to get a babysitter I can afford on 7 or 8 dollars an hour cause that is all I seem to find right now. I did a semester of college and boy oh boy I had no idea how hard it would be. my email is cherry11467@yahoo.com if you wanna talk...I wish I could help, really I do. The stuff I have endured recently is really bad and I hope you can find someone sometimes they are right under your nose. Cheri
2007-12-08 05:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by cheridan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're young and don't have enough life experiences you can gain some by asking people about their life experiences such as in this yahoo answers forum before you get married. Thank God for the internet too. You can also find out by watching tv, read everything you can get your hands on. Check out his family too, what are they like, do they like you? From what you have written, I think both families should have raised both of you long enough to go to college and get a good job. Nobody wants to be homeless or end up in jail. Nobody should be abused. Stay away from those people. A good husband should be responsible for providing you and the children with everything. If you're responsible, who has the time to go to jail? Suddenly he stops inviting you to see his family, his family starts to ignore you, he doesn't invite you to a birthday. If his family is funny, he must be funny too. What kind of husband is he and what started all this? It may be that he doesn't like you any more, he's not a husband who knows what he supposed to do as a husband, he doesn't want to be responsible anymore, he may be involved with another woman, he's not ready for this, he's lazy, he's telling things behind your back, and many other possibilities. To get a divorce you don't have to have a reason. And it's serious. Ask him what's going on? Ask him why did he do the things he did. Ask him how he feels about you and the kids. Find out if he is taking drugs, seeing another woman, about his job, anything about his family, etc. Maybe he can turn himself around. Maybe he needs help. If he doesn't treat you and the family better, if it gets worse, if there is abuse going on, if he hits you or the family, then it's time to get out. But, you can still get out before, if it gets worse. It's all up to you. Get more info from free consultations with counselors and lawyers if you need to. Best of luck to you.
2016-05-22 04:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a shelter for you and your kids. They can help you long enough to get on your feet, find a home, etc. Some shelters are really great, too. I've had to live in one before and they really helped us so much to get back on our feet and to do well for ourselves.
You also need to figure out how you got to this dismal place in the first place. Make some changes, get a job, get two if you have too.... do what you have to to take care of your kids and provide them a good life.
2007-12-08 06:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! i am really SORRY about this
now when i come to your point first u have to get a job tell your mother that you will sleep on the .... just say something and for ur child if they are learning let them then when they r in school find a job Good Luck i hope this helps bye!
2007-12-09 01:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you wait till a year to realize the problem that coming to you....your mom is really heartless for giving such excuse. I guess she doesn't want to help you to watch over your children either..
Do you have any brothers and sisters or any relatives that willing to help you out financially. Try to get their help.
Normally in my country single mother will get first privileges. May be you try to opproach the welfare department in your country and tell them about your problem.
Try to think about something that will help you to earn some finance to help you and you children. Don't always depend on somebody to help you out, you need to help your own life.
2007-12-08 07:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by ein 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Department of Human Services....they can help talk to the red cross they can help with the electric bill, ask some one at the local health department for places that help with what you need...
2007-12-08 05:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by 1 UnIqUe InDiViDuAl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need the calmness of a sabbath rest because it is through the resting of your spirit that the restoration of your life begins to occur.
Tomorrow, take this to a man of God to explain. First tell him of your situation. I will pray for you and if you will belive in the power of prayer. Next week God will bring change...
2007-12-08 05:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Reptile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job! start looking for one. While your looking, go stay at a shelter or with a trusting friend/relative, Why isn't your husband paying child support?
2007-12-08 05:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there it happen to me 2 but i had no kid's but still i was late up in my years no where to go and no money.
i went to another town got help from the goverment to help me get started.
so now i'am working and can fin for myself thank god.
i'am so sorry to hear this, i don't know why your mother won't help you. i had no mother or friend's. take care god well see you through keep praying.
2007-12-08 05:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by peaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband left a year ago and what have you been doing all this time? Get a job!
2007-12-08 05:52:20 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Sweet♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋